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Sep 27
2007
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Still a bit confusedPosted by apm in dealing with emotions, breaking up |
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Today's feeling = A bit confused
Well, learnt a few things over the last few days.
1) X2B does not want a divorce!
What?!?! Pardon?!?! Well, actually, she does not want a divorce yet. "I've got no intention of getting married in the near future so there is no need for a divorce".
OK. Well, yes, I guess I might of jumped the gun a bit because we had not discussed it. I had just assumed that she would want a divorce. Not too sure how I feel about it to be honest. I think I do want to get divorced, but I think that is just the "f*** you" attitude talking. I'll have to think about it some more.
2) She's sh*t scared about money
Aren't we all. We went through a monthly maintenance funding budget I'd worked out and I included sums for her personal spending but she said she didn't want it. She only wanted money for bills etc. not for luxuries. Not sure I understand that either. I'm offering to give her more than I believe I would be obliged to by the law and she doesn't want it.
3) She's feeling guilty
And I think this is why she doesn't want me to do her any "favours" as i, no personal spending money.
So, all in all, I'm a bit confused. I'm not quite sure what she is expecting me to do. Hopefully, we'll talk more over the next few days and sort it out.
Interesting times.
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fio
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| September 27, 2007 | ||
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Reckon she's confused too by the sound of it. Cold feet, panic, suddenly reality hits home? | |
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Vail
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| September 28, 2007 | ||
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Talk, talk, talk and then talk again. You only have one life and if it's not to be together then there's no point in pretending. I think the point of a divorce is not to be free to remarry but to cut as many ties and links with the spouse. If you CAN live with those links, maybe you CAN live together. I don't think anyone considering divorce has not been confused. |
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apm
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| September 28, 2007 | ||
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@Fio, Yep, I reckon also. It hit me last night how dire the money situation is going to be. I guess I'm going to have to get off my ar$e and work properly for a living rather than just sit here and take the wage. @Vail, True. But no chance of continuing to live together, she definitely doesn't want that. Her mind is too set on separation and seeing another bloke. So that's that. regards, APM |
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