Moving in strange circles

Sorted our finances out in the interim, sorted the children out..kinda..now need to sort X2B..

He called round for a chat without notice to say he was divorcing me..me?..

He cannot go on with this anymore and needs to move on and he can't without severing all ties with me..I reminded him that the children will always be a reminder of me..and he just laughed..so he was off to see if he could get legal aid and will move on from there...but I think I know better..he had concerns about what I would do when he goes on his next posting in May 2008..as he wanted a house and there was no way I could have a house too..SO I reminded him that all he needed to do was set the eviction process running..he seems unable to do this??guilt??..in fact he made a comment that he did not want his children ending up in some sh** hole of an ASBO estate..but i thanked him for realising my own abilities and disregarding my own council estate uprbringing...you know I just do not feel anything about all of this..I care no longer what he thinks, does or feels..anything I do for him will be for my own benefit and nothing else..

It's just about time he went off for some proper advice rather than getting a few pointers over a drink of two in the mess.

Why is it that when I calmly say no to him he goes red and raged..hope he does not react this way with his sub-ordinates at work...no no I have it wrong no one says no to Sir.

As he left I threw in the fact that if he is going to get the docs to start the divorce he will need to fill out the childcare arrangements section...and oh should we talk about that, or do you know what I want..he gave up listening and I just said "oh get the paperwork and I'll fill that bit in..but could i just ask will you be wanting to go to school meetings and things cos they will oblige us with double meetings".."Nah", he said "not that bothered"..So I know that if I ran off to the back and beyond he would not give a to** about his children...just as long as it is a nice area I suppose..

So he left and I made a coffee, got on with my day off, without another thought..except I felt smug, when I knew he could not be entitled to legal aid...but yet with a bit of fear about what he may petition me for? He left me? had i really done something wrong that would wipe that smug look off of my face..so I stopped being smug to ward off any bad possibilites.

Just wish I could advise him to come here..but that would be a conflict of interests..I do wonder though if there are any X2B couples here and just not realised it??