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Sep 11
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Well.... it seems after seven weeks of virtually no contact my x2b cannot talk to me enough!!!!!
He called twice yesterday...... three times today.....
The upshot of it is ...... he wants 'to get things sorted'.....
Yesterday he admitted to having an affair - today he denies it - "I'm 55 years of age for christ sake".......
During the first phone call today I advised him to get a solicitor..... he called back 2 or 3 hours later...... "I've seen a solicitor"..... jeeeez - I wish I could see my solicitor that quickly!!!!!
He also told me that he had 'sorted the mortgage'...... I assume that means that he has organised a way to pay it (which I'm thankful for)...
Tonights phonecall was about 'getting it sorted' again..... he said he would 'offer' me a 50/50 split.....
Now..... in the heat of the moment I said "not a chance"... he was not a happy bunny I can tell you!!!!! He said that a court might decide in his favour - I said 'quite possibly, but that's a chance I'm willing to take'
He also said that he would 'stop' paying the mortgage..... please yourself
"Is that what I want" he asked..... "none of this has been about what I want"
He told me that he had been unhappy for quite a few years... and had just been going through the motions...... well, I didn't see it!
We enjoyed holidays together.... we spent quality time together when he was at home..... we 'enjoyed' each other's families...... we didn't have any money worries..... life was pretty okay as far as I could tell....
I'm afraid I was not about to take responsibilty for him 'being unhappy'
It seems obvious to me that for whatever reason he couldn't talk to me about his 'state of mind'...... and perhaps that is a 'fault' on my part - who knows
Let's see what tomorrow brings..........................................................
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fio
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| September 12, 2007 | ||
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this sounds so familiar - mines 57 jeez, as I said before - if they were so bloody unhappy why did they not mention it before! Totally gutless. | |
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divwiki
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| September 12, 2007 | ||
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Mine's only 28 so maybe it hits women younger! Don't blame yourself for his lack of communication, he wants to pass the buck. With some exceptions, men tend to get shafted in divorce courts. You're probably right to wait and see what's happening. He sounds like one bloke who thoroughly deserves what's coming to him and I think he's started to realise that hence the sudden involvement. |
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scottishlady
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| September 12, 2007 | ||
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Yes..... I do believe that he was relatively 'content' until he met this new person..... I have looked back... 'examined' our life together over the past few years.... trying to 'see' where/when/why he was unhappy, but for the life of me I cannot see it  |
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hrm
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It was the same for me.18 years of contentment and two great kids. All of a sudden he wants to 'get his life sorted out'.I thought mine was. Initially he was happy to take blame.'It's not you ,it's me' and he was happy to settle things financially. Now,a year later, he says he wasn't to blame- but he didn't tell me because he was 'too soft'-too soft my ar*e. Now, he says he gave me everything-It wasn't all his to give.The man needs to see a doctor- he's flipped!! Instead it's me and my teenager who sees the doctor!! Life's not fair. Noone should ever say it is. |
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