Risk v No Risk!

Hi Wikipeeps ....

This is a blog to sort out my own feelings as much as to ask advice?

Many of you will have read my previous blogs but many of you wont have (personally I dont blame you they are just the ramblings of a confused mind!).  In May this year my 'workaholic' husband left me because we were going through a bad patch ... we'd had a catalogue of life changing events including moving to a house that was a 'project', death of a parent, suicide attempt of another and then redundancy..... all in a short space of time.   After a lot of hard work on my part we are now in the middle of a reconcilliation... and its going well (touch wood, fingers crossed etc etc)

 He has always been a 'company man' and been dedicated to his job .... working with the same company for 20 year and progressing through the ranks to middle/senior manangement, earning a very good wage but often working 75 hours a week (if not more!).  This took its toll on our marriage and the day before he left he found out his job was being made redundant but they had promised to find a suitable position for him... which they did. 

Today....out of the blue, he informed me that he has a meeting at work on Thursday to discuss his future.  Apparently, when the redundancy became effective and he took up the new position, there was a 'cooling off' period in force whereby he could still take the redundancy offer if he chose to.

 When the redundancy was announced, things were difficult at home and I would have liked him to have taken the offer (works out about 18 months salary!) and to have found something else with a better worklife balance ... even if it meant less money.   He decided however that he wasnt ready to do it... he loved his job/company and didnt have the confidence to dip his toe in the water again.

Five months on, it appears he has changed his mind and is now thinking that he might leave!!  He is disillusioned with the company after finding he was dispensible after all... he also has re-evaluated his priorites.

Trouble is .... now I'm scared!  I'm cautious by nature and dont like taking risks and not keen on change.  The economic climate has changed, we've changed as people, we are still living apart (but hopefully not for long) and he has nothing lined up workwise.

On the other hand, I want to support him, I know a change of employer, even career, would be good for him (and maybe us.)  Maye it would give him a better idea of worklife balance and what is important  but what if he goes to a new job and then has the need to prove himself .(hours = status???)  He will also meet new people and new lifestyles ( what if I dont fit? )  What if he gets stressed again because of it (where does that leave our reconcilliation?)  Oh Help!

What Im scared of is what if a new job makes things worse with how much he works and what he feels is expected of him and what if he doesnt get a job .... 18 months is not that long in the grand scheme of things.

 Risk v no risk .... thats the question!! 

I have said I will support him, whatever he decides but what if he makes a mistake?