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Oct 06
2008
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Saturday like no otherPosted by phoenix1 in general interest, dealing with emotions |
Well how much did I learn this weekend!! ? If I said I learnt more about myself and humanity than I ever have before it would be an understatement. I had arranged to meet some friends in a bar for a few drinks and during the evening I popped out to have a smoke and got talking to a girl while outside. While we where talking a homeless person approached us and asked for a cigarette and we got chatting and to cut a long story short we ended up walking with her to a stairwell in the multi story car park where she ''lived''. There we met three other homeless people, one being only 15. We talked about how they ended up homeless and there stories where heartbreaking, and the girl I was with became quite upset. One had been in the army and when he left he just couldn't cope with normal life and was an alcoholic who had 6 months left to live, he was 37 The other two story's are why I am writing this on a divorce site, First the male, he was 48 and had been on the streets for about 3 years, and when I asked him how he had end up here, his answer was '' I got divorced'' It turned out that his wife had, had an affair and then he suffered from depression over it and then lost his job and house and then also turned to drink. The female, Miranda, She was abused both physically and mentally by her husband and her husband also used to hit the children which she has now lost and I cannot tell you how upset she was when she was telling us this. It was awful it really was. We spoke to them for about an hour and then asked if they had eaten at all which they said no to, so myself and the girl I had met walked around the town and due to the time it took us quite a while to find somewhere open but we found somewhere open and returned with a bag of food and some drink for them. When we opened the door into the stairwell they where all huddled together asleep on the floor and as I put the bag down one woke up and then woke up the others with the words ''wake up, they have come back'' I handed them all some hot food and the older man was crying when he took it and said '' I never knew people like you really existed'' That has to be the best thing any person has ever said to me. We sat and chatted for about another 3 hours, we learnt more about there life, the way they are forgotten about, the humiliation they feel when they have to beg for food, and how people normally treat them. If only Wiki was around for them when they needed it most, but more importantly how many people has and will Wiki save from this life? Next time you see a '' homeless person '' think how lucky you have been, We all have a few life changing experiences and this was without doubt one for me.
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Phoenix, Reading this has made me think about a person that I am in contact with. She has children and is suffering from Domestic Abuse, both mentally and physically. It appears that she feels she has little choice but to remain in the marriage because she sees the alternative as even worse. She doesn't want to put her children through running away to a women's refuge, leaving their house, their friends, turning her back on her life as it is now. People stay with abusive partners for lots of reasons, but one is the fear of what they would be walking into on leaving, is it really a better world? I will tell you a story about a "tramp" that lived under a bridge for as many years as I can remember when I was a child. I remember that one year my dad stopped to ask him if he would spend christmas day with us but the man thanked him and said "no". Not because he wasn't grateful but because the man could not deal with being in a family environment. He too had been divorced, suffered depression, lost his house, his job, his children over the years and ended up desolate. When I remember the way that man was treated over the years; his mattresses and few possessions that he owned set fire to on more than one occasion. The nights he was barely able to survive because of the cold, wintery weather. How many people noticed when that man died? Being on wiki has opened my eyes to things I was shut off from in my marriage. Your story brought a tear to my eye. We are all too often to hasty to judge the book by the cover and make up our own reasons as to why people are where they are in life. You never cease to amaze me as a person Phoenix. I am not saying that to put you on a pedastel but that you are an example of a person that I am happy to call a friend. You care about people, you care about their stories, you care about what made then who they are now. We should all strive to be that better person, just do one thing each day that is for someone else, maybe someone we don't know. Society needs to know that we care. Society needs to find its sense of community - something that seems to be dwindling by the day but it is good to know that belief in humanity and community is not completely lost. I am sure people, adult and children alike fair better through divorce if they have the support of the greater community. School, work, friends, family, the worker in the corner shop, the man walking their dog past your window every day, the friendly person that smiles or says hello when you are doing the supermarket shop. Sorry, I am waffling but we do need to remember from time to time that we effect other peoples lives by even the smallest gesture or action both for the good and bad. Just listening to those people that have found themselves homeless probably gave them a sense of worth and the gesture of food was not monetary but pure human kindness. xx Sarah xx |
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I have been lurking around here...reading and thinking a lot in the past couple of weeks...was thinking "divorce makes a good leveller".. We have people from all classes and backgrounds and some of the most eloquent posts seem to come from 'those who have nowt'. There from the grace of God go I...People are people and we all have feelings...I always knew that....but never so much as from reading posts on this site!! Phoenix (love the name)..you did good !! :-) |
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Phoenix, what a truly benevolent thing to do. Theres no kinder act or more humbling act than to share food and water with fellow human beings. Its the act of sharing the most basic of things, that unites us. As a friend of mine would say..youre lift will be definitely be going up! SG |
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