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Aug 16
2007
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Well.... I've filed for divorce - strange feeling!!!
Still no word from x2b...... his brother called me yesterday to 'ask how I was'.... how does he think I am??? - my hubby's done a runner with all our money - I'm just dandy thanks!!!!!
He said he had tried to call him a couple of times over the last two weeks... since I told him what had happened.... he has had no reply and no call back... maybe x2b just doesn't want to hear "what the hell do you think you're playing at"...... seems to me that not only does my x2b have no backbone when it comes to talking with me, but it even goes farther than that!
I stopped myself from slagging off x2b to his brother... but I did say that I thought his brother's recent behaviour was APPALLING!!! - he didn't disagree....
I have worked out that it is x2b's long weekend off tomorrow... will he show his face? - I doubt it.... but if he does he will find the locks changed (I checked with sol it was okay to do this) and I don't have to allow him into the house...
I have packed up all his belongings ...what should I do with those I wonder.....the skip?.... the charity shop?.... a fire in the back garden?.... ebay?....... oh, the possibilities!
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divwiki
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| August 16, 2007 | ||
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Well don indeed. I'm not allowed to change the locks until the end of x2b's tenancy in mid-September, by which time I could be evicted myself to inferior accomodation. I'm constantly listening out for the door which I've got on the latch when I'm in. Constantly checking, too, that things haven't been moved while I'm out. Not a healthy place to be. You have already started to move on with your life and take control back, there'll still be tough times ahead but many will be of your choosing not that idiot's! |
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scottishlady
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| August 16, 2007 | ||
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Thankyou both..... yes, I do feel a little better now that I have 'done something'.... instead of sitting here day after day wondering what the hell is going on..... Do I still want an explanation? On one hand, I think after 20 years together, out of common decency he should tell me why he left, taking all our money as he went...... on the other hand... does it really matter now?..... if he has it in him to treat me this way after 20 years together.. he's not the man I thought he was anyway, so what he could say to 'justify' his actions are 'irrelevant' really. My stomach is churning though, at the 'very slightest' possibility that he may show his face this weekend.... what would I do? - how would I react? - what would he say? - what would I say? Maybe I'll just 'stay in bed' all weekend... NO, I BLOODY WON'T!!!!!! My brother called me last night... he said I sounded "better".... I have to say, that with each passing day, I find myself getting stronger, angrier, resigned to the fact that my marriage has ended.... I suppose the next step will be returning to full time work.... that is not a problem... I have worked throughout our marriage, but mostly to pay for 'treats'... holidays etc.... now, it will be to 'survive'.... My poor daughter is working 80 hours this week... just to 'help us out'..... I am FURIOUS that she is having to do this..... I have given her and her boyfriend the holiday that I'd booked for myself and x2b.... it's only a week in Spain, but it's in a very nice hotel, so, they can go off and enjoy that in a couple of weeks.... I've been busying myself over the past couple of days, instead of finding that by 10pm, I haven't actually 'done' anything all day.... I now have a surplus of tomatoes, peas, peppers, onions....cabbage, cauliflowers, strawberries...lol... perhaps I'll go to market and sell them...get some income (what's that?) Although I feel a little better in myself.... I am aware that Divwiki 's comment is very true..... I see VERY tough decisions to be made.... and tough times ahead for myself and my daughter.... but we WILL come through it..... my x2b doesn't know me at all if he thinks I'll just curl up and die (he wishes) |
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fio
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| August 18, 2007 | ||
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I really admire your positive outlook - watch out for those times when you feel less positive and know it will get better day by day. Good luck. | |
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divwiki
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| August 18, 2007 | ||
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One day at a time, Scottishlady. If the tomatoes go rotten, you can throw them at him! | |
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scottishlady
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| August 18, 2007 | ||
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Yes, I am AWARE that it is one day at a time.......... and just because I have one or two better days doesn't mean that I am in the least 'over' what is happening to me - but I would like to 'enjoy' those one or two better days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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