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Oct 03
2008
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feeling scaredPosted by Jo.Fluffy in feeling down, dealing with emotions |
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I've just found out I've got a housing association house.. didn't take that long I've only been waiting since May.
I'm just scared about being just me and the kids... hope I can cope with the finances and the whole place needs decorating. I've been shaking since I found out. Saying that its also a relief as living in the same house as my ex has been hell. Trying to keep civil towards each other because of the kids is proving harder and harder..
Friends have offered to help with the decorating.. and I've had an offer of some furniture.. its just a massive step for me.
I'm feeling so emotionally drained at the moment.. my ex started crying when he asked if I had seen the house and whether I'd got it..
I'm finding myself drinking more and then feeling awful the next day and more depressed.. and yes I know I need to stop drinking
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saffron1968
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| October 03, 2008 | ||
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Dear Jo It is always hard when suddenly we are faced with the prospect of having to cope and make all the major decisions on our own. I was left like this after my second marriage broke up, scared confused and in actual fact homeless because silly me against the advice of my solicitor let the divorce be finalised before finances where sorted. House was sold and money was frozen. I had to live in a friends shed for 9 months with 2 kids....it was a very large shed and had electric ect but it was hard going, we called it posh camping and we had all our belongings, furniture with us. The council finally agreed to house me but were not happy because they said I had made myself homeless but situation was very difficult for me as hubbie would not leave me alone and kept entering the house because it was joint names. I was currently under the CPN and was on ad`s and sleeping tabs. You have to hit the bottom before you can climb up and you will really feel proud of yourself once you move and make your own mark on the place.....remember it is YOUR home and the childrens. When my finances were sorted (a year after the divorce) I bought my house and also my business. Don`t you worry too much about finances, you will soon get into the flow of things and if you are working apply for family and child tax credits. Have fun and look forward to an exciting future...you will be fine and good luck. Saffy xxx |
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phoenix1
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| October 03, 2008 | ||
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Welcome to your new home Jo.Fluffy !! Stop the drink and just make sure the house is filled with fun,laughter and love. You will be just fine girl. |
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carrie.watling
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| October 03, 2008 | ||
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Good luck and congratulations- the dawing of a new start. I wish you much love, laughter and happiness in your new home, and invites all round - we'll all come and help!! Love Carrie |
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mezzie
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| October 04, 2008 | ||
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Jo Brilliant news on the house. Take up all offers of help & don't drink another drop till all the decorating is done, Then you can have a house-warming & only invite true friends who have helped you move on. Ask the association who you need to contact about any benefits you might be entitled to, like council tax rebate/housing benefit. Good luck. | |
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