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Sep 26
2008
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Daughter is crying because I shouted!
I have just read some of the responses to yesterday's blog and now I am bloody upset. hell I am worth more, why does he think its alright to buy a few flowers and even then he didn't actually give them to me he just left them in the sink - not the same as giving them to me.....
Yes we could go out to harvester and play happy families - and he says just see how things go = why does he get the opportunity to see how things go ? why am I weak? i should tell him to fuck off and be strong ....he always does what he wants to do
one of the replies to yesterday's blog is right ... he should be saying to me i'm sorry, i won't see her, what does he need to do - I have all the cards, but he is dismissive when I mention the affair - oh thats nothing, or we need to see how we get on .... bloody cheek, and then sort of threatens me with i'll be gone if this is the way you want to carry on.
all day i have been looking forward to going to the harvester - how pathetic am I? now i feel crushed and upset. no steps forward but really no steps back.
daughter is crying, i am crying, he will probably stay out half the night now and i am the one who loses yet again. and daughter.
can't imagine having another relationship, ever, will have bath now and get daughter to come out for a meal with me - ! appetite diminishing rapidly!
Bloody hell.
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Goofyfoot
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| September 26, 2008 | ||
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Carrie, I feel for you, I lived in the family home with my ex for 8 months after she todl me our marriage was over. I still loved her and I think just seeing her everyday felt better than not seeing her. Having read some things on here I should probably appreciate that she never gave any indication that she would change her mind, however in hindsight it just delayed me moving on by 8 months. I would suggest he either makes some serious moves to give you confidence in his motives, or you put a lot of space between you so you can have time and space to think, care for you and your daughter and take steps (only little ones) in the right direction. GF |
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mrsnomore
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| September 27, 2008 | ||
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My ex was always dismissive of his affair, saying 'our problems are not about that anymore' and then would go on to list my faults. Together with remaining in contact with OW, I finally had enough and asked for divorce and put the house on the market. It was then that he decided to say that he wanted me back (three months later on the day we moved out of fmh). Too little too late. In the end I got to the stage where it was not enough, he was not sorry, he was not in love with me, he was just scared of what he had to lose and scared of moving on. If I had remained I would have had a dead realtionship (as this slowly erodes any love you have for them) and in the end I was more scared of staying than starting again on my own. Even if he had said sorry, given you the flowers and chocs, said he would give her up, begged for forgiveness- how long would you believe it for? Carrie, as GF says something has got to give, space or a definite effort that you still have something to work towards. You deserve it. Your daughter deserves it. There is a future for you, only you can chose its path hun. Take care |
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