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Sep 25
2008
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Disposable DadPosted by Buster_99 in children, birthdays and anniversaries |
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I just needed to share this with someone.
Today is my daughters birthday and I haven't seen much of her although I'm still in the FMH.
I managed to grab 15 minutes with her this morning by going into work late. She looked pleased with her present and I got a big cuddle and a kiss. So much for both parents to be seen to contribute to a single present.
Tonight I sit in the house alone.
My stbx has decided that she and the children will go to her parents for a birthday tea and just to emphasise her control they will stay there for the night. So I'm glad that I managed my 15 mins this morning. The weekend is full of activities to keep the children busy but this year I won't be attending any birthday celebrations with my daughter.
It's not deemed important for me to be involved.
After 7 months her attitude towards me has not changed. I think it's a control thing.
I am the disposable dad.
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Bloke123
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| September 25, 2008 | ||
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Look after yourself mate. I can as you know relate to a fair bit of what you are going through. You just take comfort from the fact that your daughter knows you are a good guy. One day you and her will be so close and so tight that you will feel as proud as proud can be. In the meantime you have pain - it's not your fault. I really feel for you because my kid is all the world to me and the feeling of being pushed away is hard. My wife hates my family for some umknown reason and all the family do's were spent with hers with mine fitting in around. I guess you are in much the same boat. Just know you are not alone and that if you are there for her when ever she needs someone to talk to - you will be the winner in the end (not that winning has anything to do with it). Let her know you love her and always will mate - her love in return will be more than you could ever believe. |
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braindearth
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| September 26, 2008 | ||
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You are not a disposable dad. You are a disposable partner, yes, and your stbx wants the world to see you as a disposable dad. But stay around for your daughter and she will not see it that way. She is being mistreated too by being denied the right relationship with her father. I dont know how old she is but she will perhaps not be able to express this feeling like you can. Now, more than ever, she needs you to be there for her. It may not be what you want, or know to be right, but be there whenever there is the opportunity for time with her. Try to go to work late a few more times if you can manage it. One day she will thank you for it. B |
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