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Sep 25
2008
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Well here I am 3 months after the split...
What a time I have had, I think I am over the worst of it now - well I hope anyway. The last few times I have seen my ex I have felt nothing except for relief that we are no longer together.
Her new fellow is welcome to her as long as he is good to my son I have no problem. The relief is that I feel that I am becoming myself again I was unhappy for the last couple of year being in a loveless relationship and realise now how bad I was being treated by my ex.
It has taken me longer than I expected but I am really starting to feel the real Paul is coming back. That's all the good stuff the problem is that I have still not won the lottery.
Oh well I suppose after this Fridays £100m Euromillions it will all be worth the wait.
The problem is that we moved in to a new house in February and I was really stretching myself with mortgage and all the bills. The ex was aware that all my wages were going to just cover the bills etc and she was going to get a part time daily job when my son started school. Well 4 months on she gone I am left in the home to pay all the bills, spoil my son, feed myself, have the odd necessary night out, pay the ex money and buy a holiday for me and my son for when ex goes away to New York with lover.
I have just realised that if all your money is going on bills then the ‘magic money' you spend on those nice little plastic cards adds up. I realised yesterday how much I have spent in the last 3 months and it is shocking.
I had some great advise from you peoples before to change my mortgage to interest only which has saved me a couple of hundred per month.
Now I am thinking that I will have to take any offer on our house split the money as soon as possible, I can not see that there is any point in me struggling to pay all bills etc to protect the house that was so important to me when we were a family.
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townie
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| September 25, 2008 | ||
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Hi Paul, Have you seen a financial advisor or someone at the citizens advice Bureau?Is the mortgage in joint names?Because she will be legally liable to half the mortgage payments. Yes why not rid your self of the house that held memories, and hopes for the future.. and make a fresh start.It may make more sense to rent now? It seems you are like me and the sooner the house is sold and the finances in better shape we shall both be onwards and upwards towards our new life . |
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paul88888
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| September 27, 2008 | ||
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Cheers townie, I would not want her to contribute towards the house as I know she can not afford it. I just wish that she would give me a little leaway. It takes time when your life has been turned upside down with no notice. Oh well onwards and upwards.......... Got someone to view the house tom but I think that it is gonna be difficult to sell in the current economic climate. The house needs a bit of decorating the ex had some money put aside after we moved which I gave her to pay for carpets etc then we split I said I would match it and spend it to do the house up but she had already spent it on trip to NY with her new fellow. |
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