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Sep 23
2008
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Now here I am someone who feels they are just doing their job and they have a purpose.
My ex only went to them after a argument when a few things were said she was happy receiving weekly payments from me until I changed the locks at our house. She hadn't been there for two months and had said she was never coming back to the house!
Anyway enough about the history on to the CSA, I had been waiting for letter from CSA or call and I am happy to give my details as the payments will be about the same as the weekly payments.
Last night I got a call from someone who said can I have your date of birth so that I can confirm who I am speaking he said he was from the department of work and pensions. Now there are a lot of con men out there who try to get confidential information of you so I asked what it was about as I could not think why the department of work and pensions would be contacting me. He would not tell me what it was about until I confirmed date of birth I said okay then if you are not going to tell me what it is about we may as well say good bye.
I then done 14713 to check who had called and it was a recorded message saying you were called by the dwp we will call you back if we need to speak to you. Checked on the internet to see who dwp were and saw there was a link to CSA ahhh ha now it all made sense.
Went to work as normal the next day and sent the CSA an email saying you tried to contact me I did not know who you were please now contact me on my mobile tel no.
Thought all okay but then my boss tells me at the end of the day that the dwp had been on the phone and had requested my details . I had chosen to keep my private life away from work. Called CSA to ask why they had contacted my work they said we make contact with parent without care then send a letter wait 7 days then contact the employer. I said when did you send the letter they said today!!!
I told them that my employers were not aware with my situation and they said oh sorry.
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fitbird
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| September 24, 2008 | ||
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Look at it from another angle, if she gone to the csa and not through court for maintenance she will get less money and the csa only pay until the child is 16, so stress for you but actually cheaper in the long run - silver lining angle:-) xxx | |
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Angel557
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| September 24, 2008 | ||
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Afraid not true fitbird, you have to pay child maintenace even through the CSA until your child has left full time education that can mean 19 yrs of age.It is based on a straight % of your net income so not nessercialy going to be cheaper in the long run and noone should look at ways to save when it comes to their children. | |
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bertie670
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| September 24, 2008 | ||
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Paul Sadly I am not surprised to hear. Most agencies seem to be run by insensitive staff working to a rule book. Often they neither know nor care. Sweeping generalisation I know and no doubt some good ones but they are few and far between. We (and they) should try to remember they are public servants. Hope you get it sorted. |
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paul88888
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| September 25, 2008 | ||
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Angel you are right about no one should look to save when it comes to their children but there are better ways than the CSA. I pay for my childs clothes, his holidays and spend a lot of money on him when I see him 3 or 4 times per week and continued to pay weekly maintainence to his mum of course - she decided she wanted to use the CSA as we had an arguement. She only earns £60 per week plus whatever the government give her. She can still afford to go out, buy new clothes and fly out to New York for a couple of days to 'shop' with her new fellow. Sometimes the parents with care use their children as a way to earn extra money so that they dont have to get full time jobs. | |
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senshe
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| November 16, 2008 | ||
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I hope and believe ur right Angel 1557, as my understanding is that now my 16 yr old is attending college through Connexions I can claim not only child benefit and child tax credit, but also CSA. Background: ....My boy, 14 at the time we split, and through circumstances suited to all three of us, stayed with his father. Ex has job affording him rent and bill free acommodation. Twice my salary and her income too, child tax credit, child benefit and monthly payments from me, in addition to this he has investment in a gambling club affording him further income. As i suspected as soon as my boy finished school at 16 he was coerced by his father to return to live with me; welcomed with open arms I hasten to add. Its nice to come home to someone and to cook for two. Plus he's great company when not acting like a spoilt teen. Rather than pass the Child Benefit payments to me my ex Immediately cancelled it, as my boy did not intend going to college and despite only 2 months entitlement before it ran out in the September. Of course I could claim these months but instead I helped my boy find a small job in a fast food outlet, but unfortunately this didnt last. To date my ex refuses outright to contribute a penny to his sons upkeep; claiming he can't afford it. So here I am on a lone salary, mortgaged to the hilt (rather than be homeless) with no other income whatsoever to provide for a 6' teen with an elephants appetite, continuing growth spurts and consistant financial requests; for which I dont always oblige ... oh the joys of parenting teens! Thats where connexions came in and got my boy on an EMA course for which he receives £30. Simply because he's involved with Connextions I can claim Child Tax Credit for up to 20 weeks and now he's on a course, I can claim for its duration, as with Child Benefit too. Subsequently this entitles me to go through CSA for his fathers contribution, which I believe is approx of his income (not sure if Gross or Net?). And claim I will, CB & CTC forms have been submitted, so its only a matter of time. Maybe then I can take my son on our first holiday holiday in three years, whilst his father arranges his 5th since we split. Grrr... CSA here I come  |
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