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Sep 22
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hi wikis
this is for those of you that believe you can have an amicable divorce.......YOU CANT!!!!!!!
i will briefly outline where i am some of you know but here goes....my ex is buying me out of the house of which she is doing in two halfs
remortgaging for half and a daddy loan for the other ...no probs there except i found out this morning that half of the daddy loan she has SPENT!!!!!!!!
now i have been very fair not wanting what i could have and settled with half of the equity only!!to try and stop all the hate and bitterness that goes along with this process but no that obviously was'nt enough!!!
i think i must be so stupid taking so many risks ....ie leaving the family home,going against the solicitors wishes to take half of everything etc because i stupidly thought my ex was a woman of her word being a respected member of the community and a good catholic going to church every sunday but how wrong you can be ???????????
she told me this morn that she's spent 20,ooo of my money !!!for god's sake that was mine we were just waiting for the legal stuff but no it was burning a hole in her pocket so she went out and bought a new car and other things that she wouldnt say .....its not even the amount of money that bothers me its the fact that it was my money have phoned my solicitor 3 times today and no response!!
so first thing in the morn im going down to sols and sit there until im seen this whole process has to be resolved sooner rather than later!
the money im supposidly getting is the rest of my life ....to start from scratch and im numb and dazed to think she could do this to me my stomach has been in knots all day
anyway the reason im telling you all this i dont want anyone to be duped like ihave been divorce is and never will be pleasent so please be on your guard friends
cya soon wikis take care .....kev
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jasmine
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| September 22, 2008 | ||
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How awful for you, I hope it can be resolved. As much as we would like an amicable divorce at the end of the day. You have to think of yourself first. Good luck | |
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marriaa
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| September 22, 2008 | ||
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Fish, I am sorry to hear that things have still not settled. It does not matter if she has spent it she will have to settle with you if it was done through court.Why is she telling you this anyway,she should go through the proper channel,I think she is doing it to annoy you. good luck I have found this too,divorce is very difficult to be amicable one always takes advantage |
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anuska
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| September 22, 2008 | ||
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Hi Fish. Am sure that has to be accounted for and the problem will be resolved. If she can't raise the money she has spent then prehaps you will be entitled to have a small charge on the MH. Obviously your solicitor will advise you. Don't let things get to you that are out of your control. Natural to feel angry but am sure that whatever is considered as a fair settlement you will get. If she really has spent all that money she is acting very irresponsibly and will get herself into further debt. Consider it as a trump card for you. Take care, Anna.xx |
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mirfield
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| September 22, 2008 | ||
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Kev i'm afraid i agree with you about the divorce process -can't see how it can ever be done amicably. i'd be fuming also but don't let her provoke u into doin something u may regret. good luck with the solicitors and don't let this throw u off all the good progress u've made in the last few days Mirf |
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conners
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what never cease to amaze me is how someone who, at some point, loved us so much can now treat us so badly. Mine left for another bloke and couldn't give a toss about me, i hope her intestines fall out of her arse. made me smile keep going Kev in a strange way this will make you stronger, hope your solicitor sorts this out for you, at a cost of course! Conners |
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Young again
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| September 22, 2008 | ||
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(((((Fish))))) I presume she is not pulling your leg, either way it is not funny. I feel for you mate. The money is just one side of it, the other side is the fact that by her action she has shown what her agreement, what her word and what her honour is worth - nothing at all. I cannot comprehend her attitude. It seems nothing less than a thorough stab because you either have to swallow this or fight for what is yours with the risk of making things difficult for your daughter. I suggest your stbx is very well aware of what a nice bloke you are and is counting on being able to do this to you at no risk to herself. I don't know what to suggest mate, except what you're doing already and that you get proof that she had the money and evidence on what she spent it. The very best of luck mate. YA |
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mezzie1
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(((FISH))) How does she propose to buy you out then? Her thought process is a bit off kilter. Be strong & stick to what was agreed. |
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