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Sep 18
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I have just received my solicitor's bill and I have been ignoring the amounting money I owe them and it is more than I thought. I have had steam coming out of my ears. Had my ex not been such an intransigent and stubborn(words fail me at this point) person, my bill and his, would be much lower. After almost spontaneously combusting with rage and a good cry I thought so what? What price freedom?
This bill is what is has cost me to be free of this man and it is money well spent. I have, in effect, bought my freedom. I must admit I felt like I had some sort of emotional flu, I felt so awful for at least a year, and now, apart from the very occasional wobbly day I feel great. I am hoping feeling great will attract great things to happen to me. I can only hope and put my best foot forward and my cheekiest smile.
It is up to me to make sure that this divorce is the best thing that I could ever have bought myself. It has to be, the alternative does not bear thinking about.
Love to all
Shelia X
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kidsinbulgaria
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| September 18, 2008 | ||
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Shelia, A mortgage is like a millstone around your neck. Your solicitors bill was to remove a millstone from around your neck. Please remember that ,when you are eating your pot noodle or getting a free soup handout down at the local Salvation Army. Enjoy your freedom.... Mike x |
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marriaa
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| September 18, 2008 | ||
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sheila, I am sure you have done what is best for you. You will forget about the bill soon but your freedom is priceless |
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IKNOWNOW
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| September 18, 2008 | ||
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Shelia, I was only thinking the other day how unjust it is to have to pay to gain freedom of the sort we have found but we now owe it to ourselves to make the most of life and see the cost of our divorces as an investment in our bright futures. Take care xx Sarah xx |
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lyndamac
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| September 19, 2008 | ||
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Sheila, I like your attitude and they say "slavery is abolished!! " Well done you ,I hope you enjoy your freedom the stuffing is generally taken out of you during court cases . There have been positives out of all of the negative aspects of our case ,as now I my freedom , I love it, and would not swop it for anything else in the world . I never go without anything or miss out on an opportunity to travel or shop or meet up with friends. Best wishes Lyndamac xx |
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Metalraver
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| September 19, 2008 | ||
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Well done shelia i'm glad the future is looking very bright for you. i hope to learn some of your opinions on the subject of the Norwegian Black Metal Scene next time we meet. Keep playing those Slipknot albums full blast lol ! Take care Dave xxx |
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lioness30757
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| September 19, 2008 | ||
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hi Sheila, I was very angry and upset that my stbx wanted me to pay the costs (after all the reasons he quoted for divorce were ludicrous, he just had £ signs in his eyes and wanted money from the house and other assets). After some thought and letters between solicitors I decided that I would agree to pay half. I cant really afford it but like you I now feel it will be worth it to get the divorce rolling and sever ties with him. Unfortunately it will not be the only financial losses cos the settlement will be mainly on my side as the higher earner, but I have now come to terms with this. I no longer have any feelings for him (good or bad) just indifference so even if I end up penniless (even at my age) it will be worth not having to have to see or speak to him. Good luck with your future. ~Enjoy your freedom......I intend to. Lioness   |
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Shelia
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| September 20, 2008 | ||
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I would just like to thank you all for taking the time to read my blog and your positive comments. The future is up to me now, and I am gradually feeling my way towards a nice life. I did not think I would end up divorced at my age but hey I still have a lot of living to do. I have a funny feeling there are some unseen twists and turns ahead and which should make my life interesting. My life was pretty predictable when I was married and now it most certainly is not. A bonus is I have met all you wiki peeps. Bless you all Shelia |
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Dadsrus
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| September 23, 2008 | ||
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Good luck Sheila, I am sure your future is brighter than where you are right now. x Dadsrus  |
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