Why?

Have spent the last few days back and to to the hospital.  My 17 year old daughter was admitted last Saturday in severe pain.  Turns out she had a ruptured cyst on her ovary which got infected.  This is the second time this has happened in 2 years.  She has been in absolute agony and on morphine.  There is nothing worse than seeing your child in pain and not be able to help.  She is getting better and hopefully will be discharged today.

 I rang her dad in work from A and E on Saturday.  At this point we did not know if she would need surgery.  He refused to come saying he was tired.  I pointed out the severity of the situation.  All he could say was he hadn't slept much and wasn't coming.  I then had to tell my daughter.  This is the umpteenth time he has let her down.

 Went up to the ward and waited for a doctor to give some information.  During this time her father turns up.  He couldn't look at me (haven't seen each other for 7 weeks)  He stayed 2 minutes and told daughter he had to go back to work (lies his shift was finished).  He didn't stay round long enough to get any information about what was going to happen to her and didn't contact any of us that night to find out.

I was polite and asked him how he was.  He could barely speak to me.

Next morning he turned up on the ward.  I wasn't there.  Our daughter had now been told she must wait for a scan on Monday.  Still in agony.  He then proceeded to tell my daughter that he had been to Greece last week (how nice for him!) and was going to Malaysia next week.  He would not be coming back and the dragon (me) would never find him. He was not going to pay me any money and would go to jail first.  He might send the dragon some money to give to our daughter so she could go and see him out there.  I threw him out and he would never pay me a penny.  This to a 17 year old child who is scared and in pain!!!!    She was so angry she hit him across the face despite her pain.  He then left and she did not see or hear from him again that day.

Spent the day with her in hospital and by Sunday night she was screaming in agony.  Infection had set in and she had pulled a muscle because of the pain.  They gave her pethadine and she was pain free for a while.  But it had taken an hour before they gave her this and she was exhausted and crying.  She doesn't cry unless she is in real agony.

During this time my phone vibrated and I looked at the message thinking it was a friend or family.  It was from him telling me he had just read the sols letter, he won't pay f*** all and will kill himself first, I threw him out and he hates me for what I have done to him.  My daughter read this as she reads all my texts if I am close enough to her.   Bearing in mind I have had no txts from him for weeks I had no idea it would be him.    An hour later I received another message telling me he had been to Greece was off to Malaysia next week and then jail?? He hates me with a passion and will not get a solicitor.  I messed him up big time and he will see me in hell.  I think he was drunk.  I was shocked and disgusted that this man is capable of this when he knew I would be in the hospital with our daughter.  I was also frightened.

 He went to see our daughter again the next morning and again more of the same.  He was off to Malaysia, for a 3 week holiday this time.  He needed the key to the house as he has lost his.  My daughter said she didn't have hers.  She txt me and I rang him telling him I would meet him at the house so he could collect his things.  He said ok.  I waited an hour and a half , he didn't turn up.

 I am stunned and horrified by his complete and utter selfishness.  He used our daughter as a go between whilst she was seriously ill.  Her boyfriend has had words with him and told him in no uncertain terms that this is not on.  No one has heard from him since.  As of last night he had not been in touch to see how she is.

I am concerned about his mental health.  I hope he is going to Malaysia and stays there.  Perhaps then we will get some peace.

Sorry to go on but had to get this off my chest.  I don't know what has happened to the man I married 26 years ago (anniversary next week).  He is malicious, nasty and incapable of feeling anything except his own self pity.

Lisajane