Confusion Reigns

Ice and water,

Their difference resolved,

   Are friends again.                       Yasuhara Teishitsu/Tr. RH Blyth

 So, my wife wants a divorce but keeps phoning and asking me to do things for her. Today she changed tack and came over to groom the dog. No doubt wanted to see how I was coping too.

  She's now asking what I think is a fair "clean break" settlement as I hadn't exactly leapt at her desire for me to increase the previous agreed amount fourfold.

  If I'm honest I don't think that I should be paying her anything; I haven't done anything wrong, I'm the one losing my home etc, she is simply giving things up by choice. I haven't slept with a poxy (possibly literally) electrician whose currently on holiday in Spain with his partner and kids.

 Of course, I may notknow much about the legal system but I know that it's not about fairness or justice so I'm gonna have to pay her off with something. She appears to accept £40k is out (for the moment) and is considering £13k while she is awaiting her legal pack. I have suggested mediation to her, but after I explained what it is she said "we can do that ourselves." That's just it, love, we can't!

 She is thinking about me setting her up in a nice new flat, no way, or "leaving the country". Yeah, yeah. She always dreamed of going to Australia and the exchange rate is good, but I think it's all pipe-dreams - next week she'll want to live in a monkey sanctuary in Dorset or stay in the family home to" look after my dad."

 Trouble is, how do you het an agreement with someone who doesn't know what they want?