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Sep 13
2008
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promises and hopesPosted by smurfy1973 in dealing with emotions, breaking up, bad day |
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Hubby has promised to call around tom. Hope it is for more than sex. He gets so frustrated and aggressive when we need to talk. But i can phone his cousin for help if that happens.
I've kept my bargain, i haven't overdosed. He still has to see doc about counselling and anger management.
I have a lovely home here but he seems to prefer living at his mum's squalid flat (think of before 'How clean is your home') He is the only one talking to her now and I suppose feels special. she had 7 kids by 5 differ fathers and all were in care except one who has now gone missing (17 with boyfriend). think he is enjoying attention his so called mother is giving him.
He is 13 years younger than me, he is 21 so I'm hoping that he can change still. Hope is a wonderful thing!
I know he has done wrong but fool as I am I love him (the good parts). We are both breaking the injunction. I really love him and overdosed coz I don't want to live without the good parts of him. Does that make sense or am I just a mad woman?
Needed to get feelings out.
(((((((((((((all))))))))))))
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mankydog
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| September 14, 2008 | ||
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Smurfy, Love makes us do thing thats rational thought would tell u not to do but thats wats makes us human and being able to love is a special thing. His upbringing and his mom are probably a factor in his behaviour, tho he is still very young and is probably trying hard to sort out the jumble of thoughts that are going around in hs head but cant make sence of it all and thats only to be expected of someone so young. He needs help and he needs to recognise that he needs help because despite ur feelings for him things will not get any better for him until he gets that help. Growing up isnt easy but thats wat ur man has to do now, its time. Hes gone back to mom to be the child again because being an adult is too hard for him or it scares him, i dont know if his childhood was happy or not but he wont find wat he needs in his moms place as she is equally damaged and cant hold down a relationship herself so how can she councill this young man thro this. Anyway hun gentle persuasion is the way try to get him to get propper help and see that he needs it, he can be a better person if he accepts thats hes not at the moment, hes got a lot of growing to do yet and this is the time where he leaves behind the boy and becomes the man he will be for the rest of his life and he needs a guide for that and living with someone who bounces from one relationship to another is hardly the role model he needs. well Smurf all the bestest of manky luck be good and keep ur chin up |
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smurfy1973
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| September 15, 2008 | ||
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Well, he didn't call around. Didn't answer text or phone. Phoned his cousin and he put him on phone. Apparently got job offer from friend and took it as cash in hand. Didn't even pick up the phone and tell me. Promised then to phone later. Didn't. Has promised also to phone and call around 'sometime' in the week. I'm not holding my breath. Back to ignoring me. It's now 2.47am and i'm back to work tom. Even if i stay up all nite i'm going. I can sleep when I get home from work. Lesson plans are done anyway. So angry, disappointed and 'sad'. Why do I love this loser? I'm in bits but going to work anyway. Just a few hours. x |
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fitbird
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| September 15, 2008 | ||
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Smurfy hug giant hug xxxxxxxxxxxxxx You gota be strong now as he is showing you no respect. He knows now he can pop into bed with you and hasn't yet kept his side of the bargain. Give him a bit of a wide berth for a bit so he can keep his part and see you are no pushover, he also needs to grow up a bit, I know he is young but he is an adult, please stick to your side of the deal, and go see the gp too hun. We here for you all the way xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | |
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