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Sep 13
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morning Mr B and wiki pals.
so last night, he came round, at about 7ish and left at 11.45.
we cried for england both of us....so sad......he's not with his g/f anymore it would seem and now living back wth parents.
he's told me what he wants and thats to sell the house - he doesnt want me to have to get a lodger in, says its not fair on me ? no he's right there...
i didnt tell him what i wanted, i said this was his night to talk to me and to tell me his requirements....all very business like, i wrote a few things down and he said he felt like he needed a solicitor, we both laughed, with me thinking yea well ive got wiki !!
he said he thought by the way i was acting i had already sought advice, i said kind of yes...
we spoke about why we had split up, he was honest i think, i cant believe now after all this time he would lie, and i did ask him to not lie and be truthful with me...
it was a very wierd night, we hugged loads, i sobbed loads, he kept saying he was sorry that he loved me, he missed me and the cats...they were all over him, it was like they had missed him....i was glad to see it....
during discussions i told him that i knew that we were never getting back together and that even if he wanted it to go down that route i wouldnt and couldnt, and that the main focus now was me and my cats, to which he replied, they are still our cats....i told him that even though he had done what he had done i didnt want him to suffer and i didnt want to suffer.
he said he will help me with my future and do whatever he can..
i still love him guys, just not the way i used to now....things have changed, my life has changed......
i dont hate him anymore, i cant its not in me...i feel sad about it all - thats good isnt it ?
anyway, this am at approx 7.15 i get a txt from him, saying he was sorry he's hurt me so much, i think last night shocked him and made him realise how badly this sorry mess has effect me....he also said he loves me and misses me..ive replied saying i love him and miss him too and that i would contact him soon re housey stuff.
so there you have it, the start of a new journey....
thanks for last night peeps for the ones that were in wiki chat, i so badly needed you then....
big hugs
Daisy
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fish6
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you were very brave and strong hun hope today is a new start for your feelings and life you deserve so much more d be here if you need chat take good care xxxx((((((((((d))))))))))))) kev |
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fitbird
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You are just so strong and it is so sad to have gone through this. It sounds like a new life starts today for you. I'm glad you feel no anger now as that is such a nasty thing to be feeling. Peeps in chat are wonderful aren't they, theere are so many kind supporting unselfish time giving people it just restores a bit of faith in people. Big hugs to you and loads support for the next step forward for you xxx | |
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mankydog
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Daisy bezzy, I think that the fact that u cant hate him is a testament to u and the person u are, we see a happy smiley strong and amazing woman and last night shows that as well as all that u have the kindest of hearts, u treat nick with respect and with love how many of us can say we would do that with ours not many i grant. As kev (fishy wishy) says today is a new start the tears that flowed last night washed away the life b4 and closed the book on that story now to blossom into that daisy and show the world ur bright and vibrant colour. I hope as do we all on wiki that you find the life u deserve cos ur a wikistar lots of wiki love and huggles daisyflower. Paul XXX |
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crazylady
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Yes you are on your new journey Daisy, and you will be just fine. Big hugs to you for being brave. Love CL xx |
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Goodman01
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to be honest it sounds like the perfect meeting, you got to be honest with him, do soe crying, tell him exactly how feel and he seems to have done the same, you are on good terms, not arguing and you now have agreed to move on. All in all, not bad at all ! Well done Daisy!!! GM |
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Meishka
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Daisy it looks like you have turned the corner!!! Am very happy for you, may we all arrive there in the same style! Meishka |
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marriaa
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wow, Daisy babe you have moved on,I told you that you looked it in london but now I know for sure you have.I am so proud of you . WELL DONE. His appology will help a long way towards boosting your ego. You deserve better and you will find it.Shuold get together when penny is in chepstow. take care -another one seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.!!! |
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Poppie
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Daisy, you have been so strong and I'm sure after talking with him and sharing your feelings you will be able to slowly move on. Like you I do not hate my ex I just don't like the person he became but we all have to remember the good memories and learn from the not so good. Take care.. love Poppie xx |
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Julian ex FBGS
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Well, I'm sure it was terrible at the time but it actually all sounds quite mature and equitable. Could you both go down the mediation route to get an agreement before solicitors? I think you may keep a good friend there with any luck. Julian |
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lyndamac
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Daisy he it takes the same amount of energy to hate a person as it does to love someone. There is a thin line between love & hate we have all heard this 1 before. I have just blocked out the bad parts I do not even think of my ex -partner anymore not even to contact him about our son living with him. I contact the schools & hospital instead. Sometimes to win an argument you just have to agree say FINE ok . You sound clever and sincere which is more than can be said for some human beings we have the misfortune to settled down with and have children with. |
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robmcd
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Sounds like you've turned a corner daisy and can now move forward. Hope all goes well.. Rob |
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JJ50
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Daisy it sounds as though you have turned a corner your about to embark on a new journey a new life for you and your pussycats lol. I understand that you dont hate him hate is a very strong word as i have said to my husband after all he has done and the cruelty he has inflicted i still cannot say that i hate him, i dont, i dont think it is possible to hate somebody that you loved for so long even after what they have done to us. One thing is for sure though whatever life you have you enter it a more mature, wiser woman than you were in the old life. I wish you happiness and most of all peace JJ |
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