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Sep 12
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Two Facedbook!Posted by IKNOWNOW in new relationships, dealing with emotions, dating, being single |
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Joined facebook a couple of weeks ago to look up old friends and also as another way to communicate my life to my current and new friends.
I ended up finding a couple of "old flames" I guess you could call them. One has in the last 2 weeks, picked me up, swept me off my feet and now dropped me like a brick. It turns out he is still in an unhappy marriage and saw me as an escape from that.
I laid my life bare to him so that he wasn't walking into my life without knowing what I was now about all these years later. I gave him the link to my blogs on here only for him to decide to walk away after playing with my emotions.
The second one, well he has turned out to be the man I always knew and loved. He sent me a message yesterday telling me how he has now found happiness and has a family, something I always wanted for him as he was always so good with the children we used to look after.
He has married a woman who had an abusive first marriage and seems to know where I am coming from. He was happy to tell me about his life and is truly in a happy place now. Him and his wife met at the right time for them in their lives.
The last paragraph of my previous message to him was about how it was 2 o'clock in the morning and I could talk for England as always. He made me smile last night when I read his message and do you know why?
He said "If I recall you had a lovely sexy voice all those years ago".
So, on the one hand, one man has walked back into my life, trampled all over me and walked out of it again and the other has brought a ray of sunshine back into my life. A friend that through circumstances of my marriage I lost contact with.
A few months ago, this experience with the selfish man would have set me back, but I have seen it for what it is, nothing. Whilst the lovely friend that always was has found happiness in his life now and has shared a bit of that happiness with me.
What is it they say? When something bad happens in the world it is balanced by something good. Well I think the scales were tipped in favour of the good this time or that is how I have taken it.
So just believe that the little things that bring sunshine in your life will always make the rainy days seem better.
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Angel557
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1 thing i have learned is not to share to much of my past with someone until i get their trust it's a way of protecting myself without over exposing me.Another thing i have been taught listen to your body if your gut instinct says its wrong then it most proberbly is. | |
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fitbird
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I love facebook:-) You may have remet up with someone nasty but you have also re caught up with what sounds like a lovely man which shows there are some out there! Hope for everyone! | |
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lyndamac
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We are all on facebook what is meant for you will not pass you by . It beats chat room for social networking. It is more honest also a lot more people friendly.Watch out for all the married men on there .Especially if you are still raw from a divorce. I have 1 man on my friends he added me, her searched me out I do not really go looking for people they find me mostly, he looked honest not so much of a looker or even a Jack the Lad, he turned out to be lying changed his profile to married just wants to flirt ? just wants to taunt some poor woman. Tip do CHECK OUT the times they are on line in work hours ...... then when their wives are out working and they are bored looking after their children. COP yourselves ON !! Generally have fun mostly . I found my cousins son he has lost his entire family in 18 months how hard is that for a young man with no brothers or sisters? He is delighted to find us , I could not find him if I went to his home town now we have linked up we will stay in touch. Mostly it is a working site for us families who have had our children abducted . |
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bertie670
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No experience of facebook, hard enough keeping up with this site. I'm not sure if 'old flames' are such a good thing. I keep in touch with a fantastic person who was a very close friend some 20 years ago. We both know nothing will happen as a 'partnership' but we can and have both rung and written to each other over the years and been there for each other. She is married with 2 children, nice husband and so on. I expect we will remain friends for a long time. You don't need to look backwards, think of it as driving the car, look way out in front, sometimes slowing down for something interesting, stopping if its worth it or taking evasive action if not. Look in the mirror occasionally to check where you've been but only to check. Happy motoring!! lol |
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Shelia
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I am not on facebook, at least not yet. I feel I need to leave the past in the past. I know what happened and don't need t revisit it. What I would like is a brand new start. I don't know about old flames but I know what you mean about some men blowing hot and cold. Some, it seems, are having a bit of a bad time handling heartbreak and don't know themselves if they are coming or going. If you get involved with them can end up suffering from the fallout. Suppose that goes for women also. As always you have a nice optimistic attitude which I am sure will see you through to a very happy future. Shelia X |
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