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Sep 11
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Hi Mr Blogman and my lovely wiki pals..
a quick blog...im nervous..
ex is coming round tomorrow night to discuss stuff...particulars I think I've called it.
im dreading it !!!!!!!!!
for some reason ive been cleaning like a mad woman, not that my home is not clean you understand but just because i wanted everything spotless...why tho ???? i want this to look like a loving family home (yes ok me and my kittens !!) not like some show room house !! slow down daisy !
i am seriously worried though, the last time i saw him was the night before grandma's funeral and that was the 17th july...thats almost 2 mths !!!!!
he wants to take me out for dinner ?? hhhmmm not much point really is there...lets just get on with the job in hand of discussion and then (excuse my language) sod off please..
this time last week i was so excited, so happy, felt so strong re wiki bash and now tomorrow is doing my head in ! i know ive got to be strong, im not going to agree to anything, i will treat it as a business meeting, but this is odd...this is my husband ? well not anymore but you know what I mean dont you...and Im actually scared !!! ive nothing to be afraid of him for, he was never abusive, but its the unknown isnt it...my future...losing what I have...what my kittens and I have...
6/7 mths of my life, i keep looking at it...keep thinking what next for me ? we do that dont we guys ?? self critisize, self analyse, self inflicted getting drunk on wiki....
this time tomorrow he will be here and i will be trying very hard to keep strong, thinking of you lot which will make strong...
thank you
love
Daisy
xxxx
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Cad
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Daisy I can certainly empathise with you as I get the same whenever my x2b wants to talk about "stuff". It's natural but once the unknown is out the way you'll feel a lot better for it . So be nervous for now but tomorrow evening be strong and you'll be back on wiki later laughing about it. Be thinking about you this time tomorrow and be holding thumbs for you. Cad xx |
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anuska
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Hi Daisy. Strange to hear that as was in same position a couple of weeks ago. Except I hadn't seen my xtb for 18 months. Meeting was for various reasons but he also expected me to cook for him, Erhm no! Cup of coffee maybe. It all seemed very strange and weird and did for days after. But don't worry too much about it. He mentioned a time as in next half an hour but I'm in control now and as son and I were just going to the gym so I said had to be later. Had a frantic tidy up and hiding personal papers etc and still the perfect show home but no then realised I didn't need to prove anything or that I had collapsed since he left so didn't go mad. House was sort of tidy anyway. The meeting had been arranged for a few days earlier but then he decided was otherwise occupied. Then he was unobtainable the August bank holiday weekend. Just voicemail. No surprise.Then he rings up with short notice to meet. Well why should I change my plans when was leaving the house with my son.Noooo! He had to wait. Sure you will be fine. Take care, Anna.x |
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Turumbar
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We'll be thinking of you Daisy, hun. Keep being the strong, sparkly Daisy we met last week at wiki and you'll be fine  And if you still really feel you need to clean then I'll send you my address!! Big hugs, Turumbar x |
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mezzie1
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I would let him take you out for a business dinner. Neutral territory. If you let him back into your private home space it is hard to cope. Instead of getting on with it & sodding off, as you say, You will be hoping he comments on how nice it all looks - And you will be annoyed if he doesn't - So you will not be fully concentrating on what is said. Trust me, Do any divorce stuff on neutral territory. |
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mankydog
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hey buddy, After we spoke i thought about and i thought ill ring u while hes there and ask for my boxers back or to confirm the booking for the erotic weekend away in a dungeon in paris, should stir things up a bit lmao, naaaaaaaaaaaaah i wont do that to you good luck and stick to ur guns, hes then one who started this and be wary of his nice man and i want to be friends approach dont let his charm fool you into giving up wat u want and need. Sending big (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) to my muckah be good hunny thinking of you let me know how u get on Love n hugs Paul |
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crazylady
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Hope the meeting goes well,will be thinking of you. Love CL x |
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Goodman01
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Daisy, I still do the same, whenever my ex is due to visit, I make sure that my flat is spotless, I dont know why, I think its partly to do with the fact that I want he to see what she threw away, in terms of living somewhere that is nice??? Not that I want her back, I am sure somebody could tell me why I do this, not sure it matters! Why dont you ask him/tell him what you want to discuss before he gets there, that way you can either tell him you arent ready for that discussion or get your self better prepared? I am a project type person, planning is my game, plan for success, and you will get it, dont take risks if you are not sure about something, just say can I think about it.... Be strong flower GM |
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Poppie
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| September 12, 2008 | ||
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(((((((((((((((Daisy)))))))))))))))))) thinking of you, be strong and keep cleaning if it helps it works for me. Poppie xx |
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fish6
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hey d we all will be thinking of you you can do it hun just keep thinking of you your the injured party in this concentrate on you and what you want hun be thinking of you take care (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))xxxxxx kev | |
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phoenix1
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Daisy, When I had to see my ex, I planned it like an SAS mission, She would come in, sit down and then I would hand her a letter ''telling'' her exactly what I wanted and say, read that and if you agree excellent if not tell me what you want to change and we will go from there. Then open the door and show her out. This worked well for me as she was always expecting a few drinks and a chat etc and for some reason she was always dressed up to the nines. No idea why and I don't think I will every understand that. Think the meal thing is a very bad idea personally but maybe that's just me and how I dealt with it. Whatever you do and where ever you are tonight we will all be thinking of you Take care Phoenix1 |
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Goofyfoot
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Glad it's not just me. I worry about how my place looks every time I know my ex is dropping the kids off! I just don't want her to think I live in a tip as she knows I'm not one of those really tidy blokes. It's a bit strange as she'll only ever get to see the hall from the porch as I have no intention of inviting her in, and even I struggle to make the hall a mess beyond the kids shoes and school bags. GF  |
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