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Sep 10
2008
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Hi, I am new to the site and find that there are lots of folk in the same position, feeling the same range of emotions - anger hurt revenge etc etc but would like to know if anyone can suggest how to handle my ex in so much as he wont let go. He had the affair & left ( I am not apportioning blame) but he continually 'gets inside my head' as though he thinks in some way I should still be his wife i.e. still sympathsise with how bad things are for him. I can cope usually by simply avoiding him but we have to share info about the kids. (are independent- late teens) I need to move on and try to learn to trust again!
I do feel anger - he is there with his new wife - no mortgage no responsibilities - exotic holidays 2 or 3 times a year and I am on my own with a mortgage and 2 lads eating house and home - he doesnt pay any maintainance for the younger lad in college. I do have a new man who is lovely but I can't see any future bar trying to pay the bills at the end of the month. All this I will cope with but I just want my ex to stop getting in my head. I don't ask to be happy - I just want a bit of peace.
Apologies for the winge!!
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fattabby
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| September 10, 2008 | ||
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Hi I know this. Suggest you google co-dependency but it wont really make a difference to what you are experiencing however might give you a framework for understanding what it might be about. Am in slight similar position and its very difficutl - people who need you but dont want you or dont get enough from just being with you. Very tricky and hard to live with but see what you think from the xplanation! |
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