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Sep 10
2008
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Communication with ExPosted by Goofyfoot in my day today, moving on, children, accepting its over |
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Is it unreasonable to expect a response from the Ex when I email or text her about our sons? I texted her last night as she had not brought round our sons football kit and he needs it today. She had said she would bring it round, but by 9:20 last night I thought it was worth checking so sent a text asking her to bring it round this morning or let our son know where it is so he could go and collect it (she lives around the corner). My text was pretty much to the point, but certainly not rude. I got no response and was wondering/worrying this morning whether to phone, text or email to make sure he would be able to get the kit after school. She brought it round just before the boys went to school and I left for work, and this may have been her plan all along.
I reply to texts or emails as a matter of courtesy, and especially when they concern my sons. I don't expect, or want, anything to do with her other than the necessary for the boys, but a simple "OK" would have meant I knew she had received the text and I did not have to worry.
I may be being touchy about nothing as everything to do with her has an emotive impact on me, but I will try to be positive and try to use this as a reminder that she is not the person I fell in love with.
GF
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marriaa
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| September 10, 2008 | ||
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Hi, you are quite right to expect a responce if it is to do with your children.To minimise confrontation most probably the children should do it themselves if the are old enough, will be less frustrating for you and them. good luck |
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Goofyfoot
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| September 10, 2008 | ||
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Thanks for the reply and advice, and you are right the boys are old enough to do this. I try to do this stuff for them as I feel it is not their fault they have two homes and the complication this brings. I will now get the boys to do the contact over these sort of bits and we'll see how we get on. Thanks again...........GF | |
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JJ50
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You are definitely right about expecting a response. JJ |
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Meishka
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You know that you are right, But like me smile in the knowledge that she thinks that she is getting the upper hand.. As I said  And be happy.... |
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fattabby
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| September 10, 2008 | ||
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HI Goofyfoot Just another perspective for you. I have this problem with my ex-husband - I will email him about school hols; parents eve etc - dont get an acknowledgement never even know if hes going to turn up or have them. He texts me when he wants them and I find the texts rude and therefore it iritates me - ie 'bring them tonight'. I mean theres no swearing or abuse but its the respect issue - I would find it much easier to reply if it was 'could you bring them tonight please' . Text is a brief form of communication anyway but I think when things are strained and emotions are at the back it makes such a difference to put some pleasantries in there. Im sure over time it will all get easier for us but its such a pain right now! FT |
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Goofyfoot
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FT, You are so right that things can be read with a different tone to how they were written, so perhaps I should extend my texts a little. I do already try with my emails, and stop myself including comments that the devil on my shoulder suggests! Going by some of the blogs and notes on here I think I am lucky that I am not having much larger issues than a percieved rudeness or lack of communication - it doesnt always feel that way though. Thank you for taking the time to respond. GF |
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