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Sep 10
2008
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my horrible liePosted by smurfy1973 in worry and anxiety, work career business, bad day |
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I feel guilty for lying to work to get a few days off to sort head out. I told them my father had a heart attack and need time off. If i didn't I wouldn't have a job coz of too many sick days due to stress. Feel so guilty using my father and especailly an illness like that. My mum is terminally ill with cancer but didn't want to use that.
I just need a few days for me to sort my heard out and see if hubby will keep promise. Guilty but needed. Otherwise the way my head was going i would have taken another overdose.
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JJ50
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| September 10, 2008 | ||
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Smurfy dont feel too guilty we have all lied at some point to someone dont keep beating yourself up. Hopefully hubby will keep his promise but if not then you will always have us to turn to here at wiki. keep busy i find that really helps and when there really is nothing else to do then come into chat to pass some time Big Hug JJ |
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mankydog
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Smufy, once you start lieing then u have to keep up the pretence and eventually u will drop urself innit especially as u are not in a very good place at the moment and all that will happen is u will compound the stress u are already under. Can I ask if u have seen a doctor and told them how u feel and how desperate you think the situation is, they can refer you to a coucellor who can begin to unravel the knots in ur head for you and believe me it does work!! One other thing they can do is write a letter to your employer telling them that you will be attending these sessions and they are obliged to allow u time off to go its unpaid but boy the emotional positive that you gain from it is better than pounds in the bank any day. wether ur huby keeps his promise or not doesnt matter now what you need to do is begin the healing process the first step on that is a journey of self discovery finding out who you are and what makes you tick, you can do that with the help of the doctors but you find once you start then you take over yourself and you become stronger and more able to cope with the mess that your life has become. It also makes you realise that theres another person inside that needs to come out of you a person who you had forgotton existed, and this person is stronger and more able to face the world. I started this process a few weeks ago and i feel that as a person im better for it. i have anger issues and this has wrecked my relationship with my stepson and my wife but since i started councelling im much better and cope with things without resorting to the red mist that ruled my life before. Its taken me ten years to accept this help and only three weeks to begin to heal, i dont cry anymore and i dont hurt people with bad behaviour anymore and i no longer feel guilty for my actions i have a long way to go i realise that but im getting there. I hope you can find your way onto this road it may lead to happiness who knows but I do know it leads away from hurt and pain and the misery that was me before. Smurfy you have a big community here too that will always be glad to help both with practical advice and emotional support you aint alone and i know you wont believe me when i say it but u can get through what is thrown at you and there is a light at the end of this tunnel. Take care Paul |
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carrie.watling
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don't feel bad, sometimes these things just come out.. i am sure your dad wouldn't mind, he loves him and wants the best for you. Not sure about counselling - sometimes just 'bed' time is ok. you will know if you need counselling - i am firm believer your family and friends are the best counsellors. and you have wiki!!! good luck to you hun, hope you enjoyed your days off without too much guilt ((hug)) Carrie |
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marriaa
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Smurf babe, we have all done this.You come first.Hope you feel better after the time off |
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saffy1968
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Hi Smurf Your doctor will probably sign you off work for a bit and then you will have some time to yourself....have counselling if you would like it and take care and get some good books to read...big box of chocs and tea not coffee and relax especially as your house is now immaculate. Lots love and very big hugs Saffy xxx |
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fattabby
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Hi Smurfy I know everyone keeps encouraging you to go to the Dr - and I am sure you feel the way you are handling yr situation is best - only you know. I feel you are hanging alot on yr husband and this is making you vulnerable to terrible low points when he lets you down. I think you should consider getting properly signed off and take a few weeks just for you. Yr work will deal with that and maybe take a trusted manager into yr confidence. You have an awful lot going on in yr life and you probably work very hard to make it all look OK for everyone else - but you are gambling with the most precious thing on earth - your life. Please think about putting yourself first. FTX |
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