A little harsher yesterday. It was the first day that using the website hadn't helped - having to, in a virtual sense, get in between two warring factions on the forum felt a little too much like my real marriage for comfort!

My x2b turned up and banged on the window while I was cooking. She'd turned up for her post, dressed to the nines. I said "you look nice, going out?" She claimed that she'd just been to the doctor! She only wears heels when she's going out for a date. Maybe she's started on the doctor at the GU clinic now!

I bit the bullet and made her a verbal offer for settlement.

My x2b restricted herself to just the one phone call today to harangue me for not getting my own solicitor yet and even she sounded tired with it, like she was just going through the motions (or emotions). I think she is finding it hard at her parent's house. I was doing mainly mundane things ( I nearly typed manly mundane things - Freudian, or it's the wine I'm drinking at 4am!) today like shopping and so on.

I caught a sports programme where a guy who had become seriously disabled had returned to surfing and set up a charity called "Life Rolls On". It gave me inspiration so I thought I

 Today was very strange. We'd said we wouldn't talk directly, but the dog - being a natural mediator - insisted on dragging me to her parent's house and having a fuss from her. As I'm not a particularly proud person I didn't stop him. Why should he suffer because we don't see eye to eye? She seemed strangely pacific and we got on quite well throughout the 3 minute conversation.

 She levelled with me that she is "desperate" for some quick cash and to move out of her parent's and insisted that I could write her a cheque prior to any legal action having taken place. For my part, I at least want