Well, the sun's come out at last and things always look better when reflecting ultraviolet. I can begin to see a way through. Also, I don't know if this is coincidence, but my x2b has got off her ar*e and says the petition is done; i'll believe it when I see it of course, but she says she is accepting £10K and, oh, the solicitor has added that the court should award Spousal Maintenance "until the £10K is paid as I'm skint."

 She reckons she has applied for income support in addition to all her other benefits, but I still couldn't get from her how she has built up a debt seeing as how she

 OK so my x2b now has my written offer. Why write it? I'm so unsure of what she has been telling her solicitor I want her to take it to today's appointment so that he at least knows what I am offering and my reasoning. Also what I want in return (clean break etc).

 She has been talking about backing out and maybe that's in my interest too, but it just puts off the day for a few years so why not get on with it? Anyway how does she think she's going to get any money out of me unless she divorces or non-contests me divorcing her. She's the one who says she wants money fast, but she's so used to

Divorce is a mountain to climb. Various people on this site are at the peak, others at the first stage of climbing or the foothills. I'm not even at base camp yet. Climbing, like divorce,  generally takes at least two people. They may despise each other and have completely different values, but unless they co-operate for the duration of the task it will be a very rocky journey indeed. The more experienced go first and there they are, the Sherpa Tensings and Edmund Hilarys of divorce way up, but coming back to meet us half way and lend experience with the guide ropes or the