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Sep 01
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Hi Senor Blogman and lovely wiki peeps...
please excuse me for the future hhmmm can you hear it ? sarcasim
so i get an email at work today from my ex !
much discussion ( i did post actual wording but arnie has made me re think about this so I have deleted it) which athough he is right is much to my annoyance as I feel he should be named and shamed for what he's done ! never mind arnies right....
we are meeting within the next 2 weeks...this will be 6 mths after it all started and 5 mths since he left.....
The next part of the bloody chapter is about to start, well at least I went ahead and got some valuations booked and my chat with the IFA booked, so that we when do meet I can be ahead of the game...
I feel a sense of dread, a friend sent me a txt today saying go with your heart...well my heart says i love him, the man i married, remember that guys they are not the men or women they are now...
I wouldnt/couldnt take him back, yes of course I still love him but its different now...can we still be friends ??? honestly ? I dont know, I wish I could, maybe im a soft touch ? i guess I do still want him in my life but not sure if I could handle knowing whats gone on, do you get that ? understand it ? I guess maybe Im still in not denial but disbelief ???
My mum said I need to talk about divorce in our mtg/dinner...hhhmmm maybe ?
I just dont know, my head feels like its spinning at the moment, so much to think about....if i sell, (not a good time to but is it just best to get out) where will I live ? i could just buy again but then the market whilst it seems to be a buyers market mortgage co's are being abit tight with their money !!!! lol...i know I work for a bank and deal with mortgage complaints...someones got too !!
if i rent who would be prepared to let me have my kittens with me ? and believe me they are not going anywhere !!!
well life goes on and as i said earlier the next chapter is coming up...I knew it was coming but it still hurts you know....and I know you guys know...thats why we are here isnt it....
thanks for reading this guys...
love n hugs
Amanda (Daisy)
xxxx
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fish6
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oh daisy .....you are sounding so strong !!!good girl !! its something to to actually confront what you are i cant say what i think you should do thats up to you and its different for me i dont love my ex anymore so must be horrid for you still having feelings we all im sure will be there for you hun you take good care luvly xxx kev | |
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Iwillbeok
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Hi Daisy Talk about mixed messages! How confused (&confusing!) is this man?!! It is hard to remember that the person you love no longer exists in the way that they did, especially when you receive e-mails asking you out for dinner. No wonder your head is spinning! Sounds like you are dealing with things really well & remaining incredibly strong, it's just that there are so many things to be sorted out that you are, understandably, feeling overwhelmed at the moment. There is no hurry. Give yourself some breathing space & take things one step at a time. Take care Iwillbeok x |
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Goodman01
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Oh Daisy, You are reaching the point of no return, well you probably had been past it already, but it sounds like you have a few more high hurdles to climb. Truth is, you could enter into this with a game plan, pretending you know what you feel and what you want to happen, or, you could just make sure you dont make any snap decisions, and just see how it goes,. Your choice, I know which way I would go, you have to decide for yourself. We will be there, for you if you want to bounce stuff, otherwise, just look after yourself, dont let him crush you all over again! GM |
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Turumbar
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Hey Daisy, I know exactly where you're coming from still loving ex but too much water under the bridge, too many things that can't be undone. Your absolutely right that we loved the wonderful person we married but are now mourning the passing of those beings and haunted by the crude imitation that now holds their place. Friendship seems to be a sensible goal but it is a double edged sword - the comfort that you still have them in your new life but the anguish of being part of their new life. No answer can really justify what has happened, indeed it can just open up new wounds. Try to think about what helps you most in moving on. You are showing great courage, Daisy, keep going. This is the sunset on an old chapter of your life but tomorrow brings a new dawn, embrace it and feel the sun on your face and the feeling of being truely alive again as you deserve. Your house is just bricks and mortar, tainted with memories past - move on and find a new Daisy space where you can be you with your cats. You're doing great hun, stay strong. Big hugs Turumbar x |
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saffy1968
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Daisy you are making me want to blog again.....its like...oh no, they still have a hold several months later...so my ex could sort his head out and tell me that he wants to sort it...no not blogging now but I see so much on here with peeps getting back and hurting and it stinks basically. Why cant they just sort out their heads and stick with it. sorry Daisy if im ranting...good luck sweets you deserve it but then after such a long time apart its a lot of thinking to do and adjusting and awful that he has the affair as I know now that my hubbie is involved with someone else......ooohhh....bye and take care xxx | |
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Arnie Saccnuson
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Forgive me for being stupid, which i freely accept as a distinct possibility, but does your ex know that you are blogging this story? and if so is he replying cryptically in reponses? You know I think you deserve the top blog spot, but not sure about bloging private mails. In my divorce my ex presented an email IN COURT like this, I was mortified and there was only five people privy to that and half them weren't listening. Just thought I would ask  |
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townie
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Daisy I am in your position too.I am thinking of selling my house, I have the consent order going my way,I get all the proceeds of the house sale, but only because we came to an agreement and the judge agreed(also I have been married 25 yearsand am in ill health).I wonder what to do once the house is sold,it is a bit of a nightmare to decide what to do for the best, but all I know is once I am out our house we bought together and on my own I will be much happier....I too have a s2bx that wants us to be friends, but I have pointed out we can no longer be 'friends' we can be civil to each other, and try and discuss things practically about the finances and children.He won't talk face to face, he never did (well not while he had his other woman on the go)and never will,so you are luckily that he will discuss things face to face,it may save a lot of heartache in the long run.Just remember that the person he is wanting you to see he is is not the one that you fell in love with and too much has happened to make you take him like that again. Stay strong. |
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Daisy040
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Arnie you were right....therefore i have edited my post.. thank you for making me think about it... daisy x |
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ivorytower
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Hi you its getting to that point for us both and you are going to be strong Daisy i know you are. You know in your heart of hearts what you think and feel about him and the things he has done. We do still love them but i think we love the people they used to be not the people they are now and its hard for us to separate the two (as they look the same sound tha same but act different) .so hes hurting well its about time hun!!!!! join the club.lol ((((((((((((((big hugs))))))))))))))) Jude x |
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