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Aug 24
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very scaredPosted by getingthere in anger hate revenge |
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I am really upset and scared.
My daughter told me today that her father rang her on Thursday night. He was abusive and used foul language. He told her not to go the place he is living or she will never see him again. (she went last Wednesday but he wasn't there) He blamed everyone including her!!
She hung up and he rang back 5 minutes later with more of the same. She said he was very drunk and was crying at the end. he promised to go and see her today but threatened if she told me she would never see him again. Of course he didn't turn up.
I am seriously worried about his mental health.
Somebody talk to me.
Lisajane
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madpoodle
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OMG Lisa! How old is your daughter? I think the only answer is to inform the Police. I know it sounds drastic, but this doesn't sound like the actions of someone in their right mind, drunk or not. Even if they don't do anything this time at least they'll have a note of it on their records which will be evidence of a pattern of behaviour if this continues. It might also be worth starting to keep a record of things said and times/dates. Neither your daughter or you should have to put up with this kind of behaviour. What stage is your divorce at, if appropriate tell your solicitor who can write to his informing him that this kind of behaviour is totally unacceptable. Take care of you and your daughter Mad x |
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Mockingbird
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Lisajane - try not to second guess what is going through his mind - your first priorities are you and your daughter. Is there anyone else you can tell so at least someone else is aware of his behaviour and is there should you need action. Madp is right - it may be the police should be told. If it continues - what about changing phone numbers?? All this must be really hard especially when it is confusing for children. Remember - he is not your main concern. Take care xx |
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madpoodle
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Only he knows! Is he an alcoholic? No excuse I know but it might explain his totally over the top reaction. He sounds like a very very angry man. Don't know your 'story' but sounds like you are well rid of this drunken bully. Mad x |
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lisajane
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to mad she is seventeen and has been through so much bcos of him. He only left 4 weeks ago i have bloged my story today |
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madpoodle
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Hi Lisa Just read your previous blogs. My first husband was an alcoholic so I know just how unpredictable they are. One minute they really, really love you more than anything, the next they've got you by the throat up against the wall. Just couldn't bear to live with Mr Hyde anymore. As Mockingbird said tell someone else what is going on, preferably a neighbour who could be asked to call the Police if he turns up at the house being abusive. People are often reluctant to call the Police if they hear a disturbance, but if they are aware of the circumstances they will. Hopefully it would never come to this, but it would make you feel better knowing that someone else was looking out for you. Take care Mad x |
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JJ50
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Lisajane you cannot help him nor can your daughter it would be wise for you to inform the police. The only people that can help alcoholics are themselves you and your daughter are not responsible for him. it must be a very worrying time for you all you do need to get some legal advice and quickly. Keep us posted, we are all here for you take care JJ |
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fitbird
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you have to call police and his gp, he's angry and ill. you both do not need or deserve this. we are here for you. but also call a solicitor. xxx | |
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