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Jul 18
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Illess and divorcePosted by debbiedaly in Untagged |
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I am so frustrated with my lawyer - she suggests things and then
takes weeks to do anything about it! She also seems to be unused to dealing with the situation of divorce when a partner has a serious illness. The latest is whether to get a doctor's report - she suggested it
and then decides we should wait until he has made an offer! I suffer from fibromyalgia
which is like ME but worse and am struggling to keep going with the kids an work and all
he can think about is getting us out of the house and paying as little as he can! I am on
a very low income - his is nearly 5 times more than mine but he doesn't seem to feel any
responsibility towards ensuring his kids still have a decent standard of living! They are desperate not to move as we have moved so much thanks to him constantly changing jobs. My illness makes me very tired and this leaves me unable to cope with all this stress! How does a relationship deteriorate so much tht he can have no feelings or sympathy for the situation i am in? My lawyer keeps trying to be realistic in the hopes i will settle fr a 60/40 split of the assets (which don't amount to much!) but i know i am entitled to a bigger share because i am the one with the children and the illness as well. Has anybody been awarded a larger share because of their circumstances? I really on't want this to go tocourt as i know i will be penalised for being careful whilst he has run up huge debts int he year we have been separated. Why should i be responsible for them? I sometimes wish i had never started this - the stress will kill me yet!!
takes weeks to do anything about it! She also seems to be unused to dealing with the situation of divorce when a partner has a serious illness. The latest is whether to get a doctor's report - she suggested it
and then decides we should wait until he has made an offer! I suffer from fibromyalgia
which is like ME but worse and am struggling to keep going with the kids an work and all
he can think about is getting us out of the house and paying as little as he can! I am on
a very low income - his is nearly 5 times more than mine but he doesn't seem to feel any
responsibility towards ensuring his kids still have a decent standard of living! They are desperate not to move as we have moved so much thanks to him constantly changing jobs. My illness makes me very tired and this leaves me unable to cope with all this stress! How does a relationship deteriorate so much tht he can have no feelings or sympathy for the situation i am in? My lawyer keeps trying to be realistic in the hopes i will settle fr a 60/40 split of the assets (which don't amount to much!) but i know i am entitled to a bigger share because i am the one with the children and the illness as well. Has anybody been awarded a larger share because of their circumstances? I really on't want this to go tocourt as i know i will be penalised for being careful whilst he has run up huge debts int he year we have been separated. Why should i be responsible for them? I sometimes wish i had never started this - the stress will kill me yet!!
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Shelia
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| July 18, 2007 | ||
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Suggest you make a forum entry of your question. I think you are more likely to get responses. | |
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Fiona
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| July 21, 2007 | ||
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The priority for dividing assets is being able to house the children adequately. Sometimes this requires a split of 60:40, 70:30, 80:20 or more if the aim is to achieve a clean break. However, it's not uncommon for the NRP to retain his interest in the FMH until the youngest child reaches 18, you cohabit or remarry. The more the capital settlement is in your favour the less 'need' there is for spousal maintenance. Perhaps your sol has that in the back of their mind?? | |
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solita2007
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| July 22, 2007 | ||
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Hi, I suffer from a condition called Lupus, and I have 2 children, I totally understand how you feel, because I had had a couple of severe flares up, but I have to still keep on working and providing for my children. I went to my final hearing 3 weeks ago, and I just wanted a clean break. I got 50/50 from the equity of the house, i didn't claim for maintanence or pension. I was very excited of finishing with all this issues, it took me 3 years to reach this point but........ he appeals. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT???My kids are 18 and 19 in full time education, so if you think your solicitor is not doing what you want her to do, get another one, and if you have to go to court, the law'll protect you and your kids, don't settle for nothing, you need your money for you to deal with your condition and the future of your kids! |
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