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Aug 19
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Ok so separated from husband for two years, it's been 4 months since i got my decree nisi, so its all done and dusted.
Been on auto pilot since he left, and setting goals to make sure that good for nothing lieing heartless cheat wasn't going to get the best of me, so i started studying, it helped keep my mind occupied, instead of wasting time thinking of someone who was clearly not worth and had moved on with his life.
Wanted a career, so went for something i wanted to do for a long time, and a year and half later i have got the job, i start in two weeks. I should be over the moon right? Im not :( dont know why im feeling like this. I had a goal and now ive achieved it and yet im not happy.
Im feeling so low when i should be feeling happy, i have half a mind to ring them up and tell them im unable to take up the post, the only reason im not is being i know that would be stupid. I'm worried sick, dont know what to do
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marriaa
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starry, congratulation!!! It is like an anticlimax ,you wish x is there to enjot it with you. A new job means new friends and who knows what. Not everyday we have things to celebrate ,enjoy it. Good luck in your new life |
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Milly1
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Hi starry what you're feeling is perfectly normal and you're clearly not stupid at all. You're about to seize the prize and it is all becoming very real, no wonder you're having a wobble. This job is a major achievement for you, only this time you have no security blanket. You know what? You don't need one. I speak from experience. Be kind to yourself, and start to believe in you. Show them how good you are! |
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starry_eyes
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Thank you marriaa, you know something your right, i wish ex was there to share it all, i wish i could even discuss it with ex, but we dont talk at all, he doesnt even know ive gone for this. Maybe thats why this is tinged with sadness? Milly i did believe in myself, thats why i was able to get this far, and now im on a major low, am i crazy? Yes maybe |
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Heath
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Starry I know that feeling only too well, you really want to share your achievement with the person you shared your life with, 'cos that's what you always did. I recently had to recruit somebody to work for me, where, for the first time, the decision was totally mine. I so wanted to talk to her about it, the people I'd seen, what she thought. Not my mum, dad or mates, her. But I couldn't and I felt so sad. And like you, we don't talk anymore, which is my choice because if we did I'd want her, and I can never have her back. Anyway, I now have that person working for me, so I did it, and so can you. Heath |
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Mockingbird
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Hi Starry - congratulations - you should be very proud of yourself. Its not crazy to feel low - we all want to share our highs and lows with someone and your initial reaction is to turn to the last person you loved. Be strong xx |
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SteveLB
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Hi Starry Congratulations Knock them out with your ability and determination when you start. The hard work you put in has paid off in the end Regards Steve |
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starry_eyes
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Thanks everyone for your replies, thought id feel a bit better today, and still feeling anxious, so have written a list of negatives and positives, the postives have outwayed the negatives. Going to give it a go, whats the worst that can happen? I can not like it and i can quit, but if i dont try i wont know, so going to go with the flow, will keep you all posted, thanks again for being an ear, and making my problems lighter starry x |
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