solicitor can bend rules

solicitors take advantage.

I'm due in court on the 28th for the First Appointment and I'm nervous, anxious and very afraid of seeing the bully for the first time in 6 months. He still has the same devasting affect on my emotions and I'm trully dreading seeing him face to face. How do you learn not to be afraid of what caused you to subjugate your own feelings and life to accomodate their huge ego's and bullying ?

I'm self repping and I will have a Mckenzie friend there. His solicitor wrote to me suggesting that as the First Appointment documents were due on the 14th of August they would exchange on the 15th? I don't get that one at all. I sent mine recorded mail to arrive on the 14th and his  have still  not arrived, and its the 19th! I have contacted the courts who suggest I inform the Judge at the hearing. The solicitor is supposed to behave in a professional manner and know the rules better than a lay person, which there is no doubt they do, but they are also very aware of how to manipulate it to their advantage. Once again, exhausting, emotionally upsetting and draining. In their last communication with me they suggested that the house be put onto the market and that my husband ( we have been divorced now for two months and they still are unable to acknowledge that he is my 'EX')  and I discuss who will manage the sale of the property. i.e. they are  presuming how the hearing will be concluded ,they have convinced my ex that it will be a 50/50 split without a doubt. This is not a fact, but from their tone, they have already put this file to bed.

This is a very disturbing journey,which we are all going through in our own way, and there is no shortcut. I just hope to come out of it and still have faith in love and be able to trust someone. wish me luck.