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i dont write blogs normally but just wanted to talk really , excuse the grammar there isnt any lol ! just so you lot know i`ve moved out of my family home about a month or so ago and into my flat
i feel so free now perhaps too free im loving my space but miss the structure in my life ! that i suppose is to be expected after 20yrs was the weddding annivesary on the 13th number 20 it would have been !!! was fine wiv that day thought i was going to be morbid and sad but no quite the opposite so ive excepted that it over !!! phew another hurdle done
im filing for divorce now and hav the papers in my office the thing is when you read them its so not how things are or have been it allseems to be legal jargon that distorts things but it has to be done for everyones sake the ex my daughter more importantly and me of course
isolation is something i cant take must have a purpose to be needed etc hav joined a gym which definitly helps and hav some really good friends and of course you lot on here sory for feeling low i know its only tempary and will back bouncing tmrw
hope u all surviving this rubbish we all going through take care ... kev
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jude6168
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| August 17, 2008 | ||
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Hi Fish We all want to feel needed and we all have our down days. You sound like you are moving on with your life and you will get to the end of this a stronger person. You hit the nail on the head it?s about surviving in the meantime. Take care (((((hug))))) Jude x |
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Julian ex FBGS
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Fish we have missed you whilst you have been sorting out your broadband in your new flat. Enjoy the time there, try not to WATCH too many aerobics classes whilst at gym and perhaps avoid alcohol in the flat unless you have company (you never know!). Not sure when that stage will come for me but living by myself I would not look forward to. I think man is mostly a pack animal and living on our own isn't a natural state long term. Perhaps, if I get a flat I will need to share with some twenty something twin blondes. Not sure I can pay them enough to lodge with me though  Keep in touch Fish, I enjoy your company. Julian |
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Daisy040
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hi fishface !! not sure i've ever even seen you blog ?? we talk loads in chat and your one of the naughty step locals but here blogging ?? good on you !! im glad you feel that you have moved on, gives us other mortals some hope eh ?? living on your own ? ive been doing that since he left so know what its like and like you I love my own space... you say that you need to have a purpose ? yes you do... your purpose in life for now is to look after you and your daughter...you mentioned her to me in chat....i know she doesnt live with you...but shes very much a part of your life..... and also enjoy your time in your home fish, make the most of it...do what YOU want.....cook what you want, when you want, clean when you want, dance around the room naked if you want ?? you know why ?? cause you can !!! and thats whats fun about living on your own.. take care honey.. amanda xx |
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Mog
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Fish You're a good man &, like Julian, I've missed ya. Let's fish soon. Mog x |
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kidsinbulgaria
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Welcome Back Fish, All the upheaval in your life is hopefully starting to settle down. Biggest steps in moving forward is acceptance of marriage ending which you appear to be doing and the fact that the role of 'dad' has now changed somewhat. Less time may now be spent with your daughter but never underestimate your role in her life. In a way your role is more impotant now from a distance. I have settled down into my new role of part time dad and holiday dad. Everything else will be easy, with a little optimism and help from your friends. Mike p.s looking forward to rooming with you at London on the friday night. I'll find out if you really can drink like a fish.... |
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Shell_shocked
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good to see you back amongst us fish, not the same without you. Im in a simular position, your a bit ahead of me though i move into flat in Nov, ans while i look forward to my own space, i dread the reduced contact with my daughter, not being a normal dad, seeing the normal stuff like her crazy bed hed hair in the morning, and the warm sleep cuddles im moving to essex so we should have a beer - beats the gym shell |
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JJ50
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Hi fish Im so glad your settling down in your flat it must be hard for all you men whose wives want the divorce. Sometimes when i read your stories i feel so sad for you, at least im still in my home with my children 24/7 perhaps i should shut up a bit and stop moaning it could be worse you kinda make me feel guilty!!!! Maybe im just mad who knows but my heart goes out to you guys it really does you definitely seem to get the rough end of the stick. My husband had an affair that's why we are not together but im still in fh and i still see my children 24/7 WHAT A I MOANING ABOUT Im soooo glad you have good friends, joined the gym and hopefully one day your find a nice lady who deserves you and will be happy again. I so hope so fish Take Care JJ X |
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