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Aug 16
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Well, it is nearly four months since my separation and 7 months since she started her internet affairs. She is away at the moment with my children for a month and the loneliness is stonger than anything I have ever felt. The tears and extreme depressions are some way in the past now but I am left with this emptiness.
We moved up to the peak district to try to make things work (at least that was what I thought) but actually i just brough her closer to one of the men she met on sexinthuk.com. Silly me! So now I am up here in a place where I know nobody and she doesn't even send me news on my children.
So, what to do? The silence is deafening but I need to find the strength to keep going forward. I have lots of work to do but my work is done from home so there is no socializing possible. I am thinking that I need to go back to the South East where I came from but then I will be 5 hours drive from my children. But I know I can't survive long like this. Far too isolated and it will drive me nuts.
Well, that is my first blog entry. A depressing one but hopefully they will get better.
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Poppie
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Hi buxtonman, Sorry to hear you are feeling down at the moment. I fully understand, how you feel, I moved around a lot with my ex's job both in UK and abroad and know how difficult it can be. I would just start to settle, making new friends and have to move again. Mind you that experience has probably helped me cope with him leaving as I am now in the same situation. It is still early days for you and all I can say is try to find things to do that you enjoy to take your mind off being alone, it really does help. Take care, Poppie |
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fitbird
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Big hug. I get the emptiness too, and even through I haven't moved away from where I was from I still am incredibly lonely. It should be easy to get out and meet people but it is just too hard sometimes. I have just started to branch out a tiny bit this week, I have no interest in people we knew together as they knew about the barmaid before I did and no one bothered to tell me so having to find a complete new social group. I work with homeless and addicts so not much chance of meeting to socialse there - lol! Have a new job starting in Oct in probation, hoping to meet some peeps then but will mainly be with offenders, addicts and other lovelies but not quite my social group:-) So come on, lets come up with ideas how to go out and meet new people when we feel like either staying in bed or looking at the bottom of a bottle of wine:-) Clairexxx |
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Young again
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((((((((((Bux)))))))))) A difficult decision awaits you mate. To see your children with the greatest flexibility by living locally to them, or to live where you can have a life. No one can answer that for you Bux, but what I would say is that there is no point in seeing the children if you are a wreck. You are alone for a month you say. Is there no chance at all for you to get out and see local clubs, societies, institutes - make a new circle of friends local to you? Is there really absolutely no chance of this happening at all? YA |
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bats
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I know what you mean Bux, I work by myself all day and find it very difficult to think about other things. Pretty much all friends round here are joint. Don't like that at all!! One afternoon she phoned and said have a good night with R...... .Horrible. Difficult time but you seem very chirpy in chat and posts and I reckon you will make friends easily. Tough decision, not to be made in haste!Good luck. | |
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megan
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I have friends and family near but I live on my own in the country and the silence is deafening. It is also very lonely in the house. I started scuba diving and it is one of the best things I've done. They go away for weekends and holidays and have something in common. Nobody knew me and I have never had to explain myself to anyone. Find something you like that is sociable and give it a try. What have you got to lose? |
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Shelia
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Hi Bux I know what you mean about the loneliness I have no friends or family near me either and was unemployed for a while. I do now find it easier now I am working. I found it hard going for days without speaking to anyone. It must be extra hard working from home as that requires a certain amount of discipline and I have done that myself in the past.. You seem a very sociable and intelligent person with a good sense of humour, I am sure you will make it through the dark days and a brighter future. I thnk you need to have faith in your ability to reach decisions that are for the best for you and your children. I too am deciding whether I should stay where I am or move on and I change my mind daily. But I am begiinning to get my brain around it! It should be easier to get out and socialise but it seems to be impossible, which makes me wonder what sort of society it is we live in. The best way to keep yourself going, I find, is to make plans so that even if life is a challenge now, you have something to look forward to. There is of course Wiki London at which no one could possibly be lonely.! You are good company in chat and I am sure you are in real life. A nice guy like you will have a great future ahead of you and all you have to do is hang on in there. Best wishes Shelia X |
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