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Aug 15
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This week has been a major turning point for a number of reasons
Second councelling session on Wednesday, again the councellor could not get a word in, my overall tone was totally different from the first session, the first was very much an introduction to events that had led up to the split, a self analysis of how I thought these events had affected and contributed the split, considering the perspective of both sides, very much soul serching. Wednesdays session was very much "where am I going now how much will recent events affect me achieving that (very little now).
So I am a cured man, well maybe- I'm not that pretentious. The next session is in a months time and for want of a better description is to cover my re-integration into society.
I used to love music, particularly instrumental music in its many forms, my stbx/wife/witch did not share that love and in the words of Buddy Holly, "the day the music died". Last night I listened to Beethovens ninth symphony, all the way through, nice and loud and thorougly enjoyed it, experiencing the emotions of this great work. Ironically it was the Bernstein version played after the fall of the Berlin Wall, it was the "Ode to Freedom" version. It amused me considerably when I realised this.
Followed up by a little Mike Oldfield, I am showing my age !
This prompts a little topic for discussion -
If you had to totally loose either your sight or hearing which would it be and why?
I always find peoples response to this one facinating, and I am sure that the answer and reasons say a lot about the persons basic personality and outlook on life.
For me as you may have guessed I would rather do without my sight than my hearing. I will not reveal my reasons yet, I will save those in case anyone comments on this.
Went to the bank today to talk about funding transfer of equity to stbx/wife/witch. We have had a number of amicable discusions about how much and are sufficiently close to agreement that I have arranged the finances and hope that the final discussions agree with the provisional offer from the bank, if the do then all I need to do is press the big red button marked "future poverty, no more holidays, no retirement"
Reminder to myself, now that the phone account / number is sorted, must sort out broadband before dial up internet bankrupts me.
The sun was out this afternoon so I took the motorbike out for a thrash, again enjoyed it very much - sometimes it's nice to be irresponsible without feeling guilty.
I hope the weekend weather is good to everybody, enjoy your weekends
Steve
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sarah39
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Hi Steve, Difficult question to answer as I believe both senses are taken for granted by fully-abled people. I guess I would rather be without my hearing. I think I am more of a visual person. I often say things like "I see what you mean", rather than "I can hear what you're saying". I used to do a lot of mountain walking, and love looking at the fantastic views from the tops. I like to hear the birds sing, but I get more from watching hawks circling, from seeing kingfishers in the nearby stream. My mum used to be fluent in sign language, and I've picked some of it up, so I know I could communicate as a deaf person, but as a blind person I would miss a very important part of communication - seeing peoples facial expressions. Some of the looks on my husbands face over the past months have spoken a thousand words!! sarah |
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madpoodle
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Sight, definately. I too love music, but I love my doggies more and the thought of not seeing their lovely doggie smiles and their sheer joy at being alive would be more than I could bear. Also I really love our walks and love nature and watching the changing seasons. It's funny how we make all sorts of sacrifices for our partners. I too love music as I have said, but hardly ever listened to the kind of music I love whilst married. I also love reading and could quite easily spend a whole day reading, but I have never done this whilst married because I was made to feel guilty about 'wasting time'. I adore pasta, my husband didn't, etc. etc. I wonder if he made any sacrifices? I honestly don't think he did, we always did exactly what he wanted. I must say that at the time I was more than happy to go along with most of it because I loved him, so I guess my fault as well because I went along with it. Love your blogs, keep blogging. Mad x |
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fitbird
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Oh it's got to be lose hearing. Sight is too precious to me. I am a photographer and enjoy the colours, shapes around me. I would be destroyed it i could never sit on a bench and look at something and just enjoy noticing how its texture is different to that around it or the subtlty of tones. But as also love music too hearing would be a great loss, just not as much. xxx | |
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Goodman01
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Steve, Its a very hard choice, but I would have to keep my sight, the thought of never seeing my childrens smilling faces again would break my heart. Sounds like you are having some happier times now, good for you! GM |
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Poppie
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Steve, I would most definitely have to keep my sight. The thought of not seeing my son grow into a man, to not be able to see his smiling face would be way too difficult for me. Poppie x |
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SteveLB
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Well it looks like a majority for keeping sight, rather than hearing. It is certainly surprising how those who have lost one or the other compensate with heightened other senses To me, hearing says so much about emotions, a person sounds sad,happy, they laugh, cry, express amazement, are angry, resigned and you cannot mistake the sound of children having fun. The effect music can have on the emotions, the sad song, the happy song, the music that paints a picture. All of these contribute to my reasons for choosing to keep the hearing. Steve |
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