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Aug 08
2008
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She has lost her job and is lying around the house doing nothing. Drinking is a major activity and now smoking in the house (previously this has been an outdoor activity). The house is only clean because the cleaner comes in for 3 hours a week, she has a pile of washing waiting to be ironed that has grown for a month - she does nothing.
When I ask her what she is planning to do I'm told it is non of my business. She then asks what I am planning to do so I say I will be working to pay for everything to which her reply is 'Well it's going to cost you even more now'. She is being quite vindictive now that she isn't getting what she wants for a change and as I refuse to rise to the bait that just serves to be even more annoying.
But it is starting to wear thin. It's been 9 months and we are no further forward and she expects at least another 18 to finalise it. I just want to get on with life and it's like having a leech attached. It won't let go, you can't get rid of it but it keeps taking goodness from you.
What can I do? The lawyers are so slow snail racing is quicker and now they are all on holiday anyway. The house is now in negative equity and with no income from her she cannot pay off her debts. Will they become mine? No doubt they will. Should I stop giving her money and keep a real tight rain on it all?
It's a mess and getting worse, all suggestions will be considered except Gertie Gareth's hitman! Not that desperate yet. Perhaps a really crap joke will make her choke on the booze?
Have a good weekend all. I'm taking the dongle back tomorrow as it's useless. Cannot get 3G even in the right areas.
Bert
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| August 09, 2008 | ||
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Hi, you can always say sod it and move out honey. your health believe me is the most important thing there is and if you are getting stressed and working just to keep a roof over her head it isnt worth it. leave, inform the mortgage lender that you have left and try to come to some arrangement with them that if you pay your 1/2 of the mortgage you dont get a bad credit rating. to be honest it really doesnt matter what your credit rating will be as the way the market is you would be a fool to buy now anyway. i would give your solicitors a jolt and tell them that unless it can progress a lot quicker you will have to let them go and self rep. when i mention that to mine he phoned the other side to see if they would negotiate a clean break there and then. my x didnt and i am still fighting but it will be done and finished with this year, thank god. leave and let her find the money fo rthe mortgage and bills and see how she likes it, you can always move back in later or pay 1/2 the mortgage to the lender not her of course. I know i sound a bit mean but you need to call it quits and stop being treated like a wallet and get on with your life and if your not paying believe me, she will soon get her act together to get this divorce done as quickly as possible. kindest thoughts dawn |
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