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Aug 05
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From hero to zeroPosted by gareth67 in anger hate revenge, accepting its over |
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have been reading a few blogs and it seems the the time line between hero and zero is very short if you are the man?
How is that one day you can be everything to to everyone the following day something the cat dragged in?
My answer ......... the other half!
This is the person that you sold your soul to on the wedding day, would be willing to take a bullet for, the person you thought was your soul mate for ever, the one you hugged when they cried and the one who hugged you.
So what makes them change? I don't know but they do. I have had mine telling my daughter the reason SKY doesn't work is because dad has cancelled it, not true it's because the box was f**ked up and needed switching off and on? My son only young but he tells me he doesn't want to go to the creche and it makes him cry to her saying he loves it.
Now I don't think someone of two can tell right from wrong and I don't think he could lie, so why does he hate going to the creche but she tells me different?
Off I go a rambling again, I think I'm being as fair to everyone as I can why can she not do the same, it is driving my mad, or is that the plan, again I don't know but if someone can point me in the right direction it would help,
Cheers
Gareth
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madpoodle
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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Hi Gareth Sorry to hear that you and your children seem to be bearing the brunt of your wife's anger. I don't think you can get much lower than lying to your children in order to hurt someone else. She is obviously very bitter about things and I'm sure she's hurting herself as much as she's hurting her family. I don't really know what to suggest to make things better, just hang in there for the sake of your kids. Hopefully at some point she'll realise that she's hurting everyone, especially her children. Good luck Mad x |
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gareth67
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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Hi MadP, I would hope that as well but if you read my recent blogs, I'm not too sure anymore? Can one person change so much so quickly, is it stress, is it anger or is it just evil? Thanks for reading and you comment, always good to know there is someone out there on the web reading my rambles Gareth |
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Donnylass
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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Hi Gareth, I was just wondering the same myself. I was clearing somethings out-as you do-and found a note written by scumbag, mid January, telling me how much he loved me, and how much I meant to him. 2 weeks later, he had visited his prostitute friend, and was telling his brother we were splitting up!!! I think I missed something inbetween those dates.!! Take care  |
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gareth67
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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Hi Donny, You may have missed something but your better off with out him Look after yourself, hope things are going well? Gareth |
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2xfoolish
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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hi, just read your blog. dont kow why your x is angry you dont say. prehaps she is angry you are moving on, or because you are in the wrong (i'm NOT judging just asking i suppose) My lad wil often tell me 1 thing and his dad another. He is trying to keep us both happy. I do think your x is way out of line to use your kids to get to you. In my case its my x who changed. telling me he loved me and was sorry for his first affair while all the time having another. I was VERY angry but never used it against my son. Now 12mths on he can see for himself what type of man his dad is, simply because i bit my tongue and said nothing bad about him. it hard ,very hard to keep quiet when you want to scream all at your kids its not your fault and list all the bad things about your x but its well worth the pain tolet your kids find thier own way to these faults. keep smiling |
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lilybel
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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Hi Gareth, it seems very sad to me that your ex does not realise how lucky she is to have a good father who is so willing to be part of the childrens lives. As long as the kiddies have one parent that is consistant things will be ok. I understand what you mean when you ask why the people we thought we knew changed so drasticaly overnight, if you find the answer gareth, make sure im the first person you tell as that question is keeping me up at night also. renmember 1 thing - YOU ARE THE DADDY! and a fab one at that! | |
Rani4
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Dear Gareth It pains me that you're going through this. I am going to go out on a limb here and say: they are all doing it, men and women. i've learnt that once the crack in the marriage happens, it all turns sour. they start seeing everything in the negative, and we do that too. the way i see it: once he decided to cheat, he started seeing everything i do as wrong. and he refuses to see me as iam - this is how he justifies his behaviour. once i came to that realisation, my heart suddenly became calmer and a certain degree of serenity descended upon my soul. your wife needs to see you in the negative in order for her o continue her behaviour. should she acknowedge what a wonderful father and husband you are, then she has no excuse. take heart dear Gareth, it really isn't you it is her. her need to paint you a certain colour to justify her actions one thing though: no matter what we do, or they do, the children shoudl never ever be put in the middle. adult/parent problems affect the children profoundly as it is, we reallly must make sure we protect them from further hurt, and they should never be put on the spot because it damages them emotionally. and they should never be to disrespect their parents because that undermines the authority and bond that we owe our children. i hope your children will overcome this phase, and you will always be there as a constant loving presnece in their lives good luck rani |
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Goodman01
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| August 05, 2008 | ||
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It is hard that somebody who you thought was your other half, half of the whole that you are supposed to be, can actually be your dick dastedley to penny pitstop, but its true, the person you let closest is the person you end up hating the most. Now you know it, you know where you stand, dont let her hurt you anymore, be strong, the best father you can be, and keep your dignity, Good luck GM |
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gareth67
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| August 06, 2008 | ||
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Hi all, Just thought I would say thanks, you lot keep me going Gareth |
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mike62
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| August 06, 2008 | ||
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Gareth, Don't let her get to you. You have always been generous and put the children and her at the forefront. Sour grapes can't change that. You are their dad, and no amount of conniving or manipulation can change that. You have had the high moral ground throughout. She can't change that. So she is getting a bit short of ammunition now. Just keep plodding on. She is going to run out of steam eventually. Stick with what you know to be right and fair Gareth. She can't change that either mate!  Mike |
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