This time in 2007 I was blogging of plans to move away from London with my husband.  We were to buy a house in a nice quiet area, get another dog, perhaps another cat.  I could halve my working hours and spend more time 'home making' to my heart's content. :-)  Life would be better for both of us.

This time in 2008 I was blogging of life living in a box room, my dog in 'care', my cat being abandoned by my husband.  I wrote of trying to take back control of my finances from him, of having to avoid him for my own safety and sanity.  I was broke, homeless and so very miserable.  I was adrift and

Hi there,

hoping it will help me to get this out - it all seems so hard to believe still at times, as it only happened 4 weeks ago - other days the crashing reality turns my stomach. I have lost 17 pounds in a month!! Weightwatchers eat your heart out!! Been trying to lose weight for 5 years - what a way to do it!!

 I came home from work  to a note!! We had only been back from an Egyptian cruise 10 days before. My husband had had a terrible 4 years (well, so had I actually) In 2005 he had been diagnosed with an infection in the front of his skull that had been burbling away since a head injury

This is the first time I have ever blogged, I only found this website today, but wish I had found it a couple of weeks back.  I was browsing on the web looking for info on the 5 stages of grief to see if I could make sense of how I'm feeling, if not what he was doing! I have been with...... sorry, I had been with my.....what do I call him now, STBX seems to be the usual - I had been with him for 10 years, married for 8, he was my second marriage, first time I was very young and it didn't last very long, but even so it took me many years to get over it, he was violent and abusive! When I met