I've been stuck in a rut for years.  Working a long way from home, long hours, very stressful, underpaid, and, I've finally realised, neglecting my family and taking all my grief out on them. 

My wife's been stuck in a rut too.  Alone in the house, looking after the kids, depressed, realising she was nearing 40 and the kids were growing up and blaming me for everything.   

So we drifted. She hooked up with an ex, stopped talking to me, and  started a new life.  I got cross, got stressed, and had a total breakdown, exacerbated by several deaths in the family which I had to deal with.  I

I had been married for 24 years.Been through a lot with hubby,as been together since age 18.Supported him in good times and bad.In 1998 I became seriously ill with a heart condition that almost killed me, and he showed devotion and looked after me for 2 years giving up work to help look after my new born son.I recovered but hadn't returned to work was just working up to trying to get back in employment.We muddled along and he returned to work.Fast forward to this year, when he kept disappearing because he was 'depressed' 'needed time to be on his own as he wasn't sleeping'(he had sleep

This is my first blog ever -anywhere!

Boxing Day 2006 my next door neighbours husband was killed in a car crash.

Ex and I had only lived next to them for 18 months but it was in a small group of 5 houses in the country and we got on well with them. I had became close to her even though she had certain character traits that weren't so attractive (lied about silly things all the time).

Needless to say it was tragic and friends andfamily all rallied round to support her. I work full-time and do shift work,my ex works part-time in the summer and researches and writes in the winter. My ex and the