We seemed to have a normal Christmas - but my husband did not really seem to be 'himself' somehow. He seemed to be restless and on edge. Then, on 3 January 2008, he suddenly announced he was taking divorce proceedings against me. I thought he must be joking, he was not thinking straight. He said he was serious, it was the only course of action. He said he was divorcing me because of my credit card debts (he also has credit card debts) and because of my ongoing mental health problems. (I suffer with severe clinical depression, which he knew I had when he married me 18 years ago. I also

Day 14, Its been a little bit quieter over the last couple of days. Received a fairly unpleasant phone call yesterday from stbx coming out with all sorts of threats about me having to pay to keep her and stuff like that. In the end I hung up. Seem to do that alot these days. I have decided not to discuss anything financial with her apart from the actual sale of our house. I wont talk about how the equity gets divided. Thats what I am paying my sol for. I told my wife this morning that I will not fight with her about money. I said anything financial can be handled by my sol and she would need

Well, 12 months since I was told that 'our' marriage was over. I felt the need to mark it in some way, so another outpouring into the blog machine seemed as good a way as any. It's good to write. The blog machine doesn't judge, doesn't comment, just takes whatever I throw it's way. It's my 16th wedding anniversary on Friday. Shan't be rushing out to buy the card and flowers this year. I suppose that she will be feeling a bit fragile about it too. Should make for an interesting day. Wonder if either of us will actually admit to the other that we know it is our wedding anniversary?