There won't be many relationships here at wiki free from hurtful and cruel things that one side does to another and if I made a list of all the unkind words, thoughtless choices, and many other hurtful things my ex has done to me in the past, it could stretch for miles.

Just going to what is hopefully my final counselling session so am reading through some notes and thoughts that have occurred to me during these sessions which started I am surprised to see as long ago as August 2007. I will share a few things with you now.

When I think of the way I've reacted to all the stuff thrown at

I thought I would share this little tale, to illustrate how marriages can get into difficulties from an early stage. It also explains why I was in a foul mood this weekend!

For those who don't know me, I have a small country house hotel and run it with my stbx. Basil and Sybil in the flesh.

First wedding of 2008. 65 guests for the wedding breakfast and the bride's mum is doing a Hyacinth Bouquet. She is so making a point about 'look at us, we are special'. Special indeed. Second weekend in February and Hyacyinth insists on having a marquee. We point out that it is freezing, and the

Wow, next week is going to be such a mix of emotions!

Tuesday, well this determines whether the smiles keep coming for a very long time or not. I believe now, that this is almost a forgone conclusion, but nothing is ever certain in life. But I am as certain as anyone can be that life is going to get a whole lot better. Watch this space!

well at the other end of the spectrum, Wednesday sees me attending court in Norwich 25 miles away for a Contested Interim Contact Hearing, which has been allocated 3 hours. I have to leave all my kids, my 1 year old especially, all day. My friend is lovely, but