Hi, as most of you are already aware, divorce totally sucks. I've recently found myself being divorced by my lovely wife of nearly 2.5 years and didn't see it coming at all, complete shock to my system and I'm pretty devastated. My story is pretty unspectacular compared to a few others I've read but nonetheless the end result is just as painful. Anyways, as soon as I've got a bit more time, I'll write an honest transcript of what's happened and hopefully that'll help me to make some sense of it all. First time I've ever done anything like this, so should be fun (ha

So this evening I find out if my wife has discussed couples counselling and if it is something that she will try. I am immensely worried about this decision because I have raised the subject for 13 months and now it is a decision that my wife will make after discussing it with her counselor.

This is quite hard to accept. To me it is a no brainer. You try counselling to see if it will make separation easier, you try it to see if it will repair the relationship. Either way it makes it easier.

But I am not involved in the decision. And I have been dreading the wait.

Anyhow, wife came back

Given that my divorce was straight forward and simple - we both accepted it wasn't working, it was over and time to move on I wasn't ready for what I was about to be hit with with my partner's (off-again-on-again) divorce .... or the impact it would have on every aspect of my