Ok I knew the divorce regime would not be easy,but I failed to understand how much it would hurt!!.......................... No one tells you that do they??

Today another flaming letter from my solicitor informing me x is amending the arrangements for our children we had previously agreed ourselves.

Now he is stating he is the perfect father, of course he is in his eyes. He is not a bad father don't get me wrong but could do better. However just starting to do better after 14 years with our son is not good enough unless of course you are acting on advice from a solicitor!!

What worries me now

OK this is a Divorce support website and so if you have been through a trial separation it is likely that you are now heading towards a divorce.

I fully understand that. But I would like to know how people went into a separation, how much planning went into it, how did you manage it with children involved, what you felt of the experience, pitfalls and benefits.

Your help would be appreciated. Not quite at that stage but it is something we are discussing.

Thanks

he used to bring me flowers,silly title pwrhaps?but the man who used to do that has well gone,instead now imliving with a freeloading head player,if you have read any of my other blogs you will have an idea.

how come i cant get him out the house!hes threatening,been arrested twice.dont pay his share of bills,and the mind games ,i yhink he is wanting me to react and try hurt him,im not stupid hes a big guy and not shy at throwing weight around.he goads me on how good sex was with this woman,whom ever she may be.

god she is so welcome to him!

i cant say he was horrible throughout our short