Interesting. A rather painful experience - but not for reasons I was expecting. Wife went 30 minutes before I did - a bit of form filling re legal aid - NOT ELIGIBLE - and then a discussion with Counsellor as to what she wants etc. Then change round and I go in - form filling for legal aid - NOT ELIGIBLE - surprise surprise.

Then it was the joint discussion with us both present. It was very amicable - forms re finances were explained - and possibility that things could be resolved amicably were discussed - wife mooted that I got 40k - a 30% share - I suggested 40% as advised by solicitor. So

I hate worrying about money.  The day to day caution is fine but the bigger worries get to me.  I want a clean break - what's the point in hanging around? - but waiting for financial disclosure and negotiation niggles at the back of my mind now and occasionally causes nightmares. 

I daren't look too far into the future.  I'm fine until the teenagers grow up - because I have to be.  Nobody is going to make them homeless.  After that, who knows?  I earn well but I haven't long enough to save.

 Perhaps I'll retire to a place or country I don't know.  I need to look on it as an opportunity.  In

Wife and I had a chat fter her first visit to her solicitors yesterday. All very open and frank. It appears she struggled to explain why she wants a divorce - no cruelty, no unreasonable behaviour, no adultery etc etc. She just knows she doesn't want to be married anymore and thats it. Think solicitor might be ringing me for a date!

Anyhow, missus then stated that solicitor suggested she just got nit picky and  basically fabricated lots of little niggles to enable divorce to be finalised in 6 months - nothing personal says the wife - don't take it the wrong way - just a means to an end. It