On Tuesday i made him make a final decision. I suppose some part of me wanted him to say would could work things out, but that didn't happen. We decided to separate. Told our 5 girls last night. What a nightmare. I will move out and buy a house with my daughter and he will find somewhere for himself and his 4. Maybe we will be able to see each other after we have separated (like it was at the begining) only time will tell. Perhaps we both need space and time to find each other again. Who knows? Shame really. We never argued or shouted, just grew apart and he wanted to find himself again i

1. Think of jobs he did - the ones you thought must be difficult - and learn to do them yourselves. Even if it takes you ages, doing something new is an achievement. Congratulate yourself.

2. If he comes round and finds fault, smile serenely and ignore him. It's not his business any more.

3. Watch a TV programme he disliked or despised. Note what's good about it - enjoy it if you can.

4. Retune the radio to a new station. See if you like it.

5. But something you never bought because he didn't like it. This one's for you.

6. Cook your favourite meal, especially if he didn't like it that

 Well, the sun's come out at last and things always look better when reflecting ultraviolet. I can begin to see a way through. Also, I don't know if this is coincidence, but my x2b has got off her ar*e and says the petition is done; i'll believe it when I see it of course, but she says she is accepting £10K and, oh, the solicitor has added that the court should award Spousal Maintenance "until the £10K is paid as I'm skint."

 She reckons she has applied for income support in addition to all her other benefits, but I still couldn't get from her how she has built up a debt seeing as how she