Yesterday's outcome of the Final Hearing is still sinking in. Some of you  may know my case has taken 2 yrs and 11 months to resolve and a lot of  bitterness along the way, and that I had, had very  poor legal advice from my then acting sols. At my repeat FDR in February I was advised to accept his offer which was written down wrong on paper the offer being £20 p/w for 2 years as a clean break settlement  later offer was £25 p/w for 2 years and £240 pcm for the children until they leave school secured in a consent order due to his large arrears with the CSA.My gut feeling was this is wrong this is not a fair settlement nor does it reflect 20% of his net income for the children that I was prepared to go all the way to final Hearing .His form E was lousy and not a true reflection of his financial situation. I knew all along he was lying hence why I took him to the CSA appeal and won last month. I am not going to go into the inn's and out's of what this man done to me but will state this is the man that had 100% control in our marriage and it was him who decided to sell the FMH and conned me on the way and he had I would estimate 85% of the equity. Due to him playing a game of lets drag this out what he has done with this money only he knows. For quite a while I had felt so down which the poor legal advice I had received and one night on here I got talking to Amanda divorce lawyer who answered a lot of questions I had, time was getting nearer to the date of the FH but after talking to Amanda I really wished I had used her services I thought it was too late in the day to change. I did go with Amanda and her firm and I am so happy and pleased that I did they done a very good job for me. For once I was treated as a human with feelings and not a case number.

Monday 14^th July in court he was there with his new wife this marriage it seems happened for one reason only. For the whole day my poor barrister M had it in the neck from the ex, the whole day ex was ignorant, aggrogant, cocky and just plain rude who would often reply with why should I! and even called M out of the room to inform him he was reporting him .The name of the day for myself and M seemed to be disgusting this was a word that came out of ex's mouth every 5 minutes and even in front of the judge I have never known someone who could interrupt a judge and barrister the amount of times my ex did. His  behaviour in the waiting room after seeing the judge why he kicked off I don't know but to inform a waiting room shouting she had an affair she is disgusting was not a pleasant experience and so far from the truth.Ex told M he needed to get his act together ooer.

Tuesday 15^th July he didn't bring her with him perhaps cos of the way she behaved towards my mother the day before, he bought Derek (how very dare you) with him this is a man that glared at me the moment I walked into the waiting room to get to a side room and every time I came out that room he glared my father noticed this and looked at him until he turned his head away this was another act of trying to intimidate me. It seemed to drag on for hours I was under oath first which wasn't too bad tbh then his turn to cross examine me which he didn't he was just going on about how I wouldn't let him see the children.Dunno how many times he was told the  case was not about the children but he still went  on and on .He did lie under oath about his true earnings just cos he is self employed he really believed he could pull the wool over every one's eyes and he did with the CSA.Just after mid day ex's back end went and his lies fell apart around his ears M asked the right questions at the right time and the truth was out M passed me a post it note with the words Got him on it.Ex did clutch straws all the way uptil the end and  bought up his deceased sister and stated the same as what he put in the letter to the CSA his parents only want to see the children because my sister died and it feels a hole in their lives. He went on and on about his new wife and her 3 kids when I was asked about our son's problems he was not interested but said done behind my back I'm the father disgusting this was the man when I tried calling him in Feb with help with the ASD clinic he put the phone down on me , but he went in to great detail about her son's bowel problems his attitude about our son was he goes to school don't he which I had to tell the judge he has 16 hours per week 1 2 1 support with his own teaching assistant , speech therapy and occupational therapy , he claimed I'm using the child as a pawn and his mum had said so too in the past , the judge was 100% correct to state himself and his mother are not experts. I have 5 children to support he said I even pay for my 2 and I don't see them for which the judge told him you don't pay to see your children. He was asked have I let him see the children he replied yes but she won't let my wife why don't you spend some time with them on a Saturday or Sunday with them alone which he responded why should I.I think we heard about his stress and depression about 4000 times him stating how unhappy he has been in the last 3 years but surely if he has just re married he should be on cloud 9 so it seems this marriage happened to try and get out of paying for his first family but it back fired.Ex stated I could get a job he was asked why  can't your first wife stay at home with your children ? But your new wife can and her children are older than yours. At the end of the day this was a man who was willing to de fraud a fair payment to his children claiming to be earning under £250 p/w with the CSA and was getting away with it too, he has appealed the appeal I won even though it was his own evidence that made them re assess him. Judge see his earnings to be £800 p/w on a basic week as judge said now you will no longer have stress and depression you should be able to earn even more, everything I have been told on the grapevine about who he works for and where have been true when I relayed this to the CSA they believed him over me. The whole of the court and CSA now know I had this alleged untrue make believe affair cos I wanted out of an unhappy marriage easiest thing to do was accuse me of having an affair a woman that never went out, a woman that worked a couple of hours per day at the children's school who came home kept the house and garden spotless cared for our 2 children but in between that time I found time to conduct an affair. Glad to say it has now ended a fair result for my children all I wanted all along was fairness for our children, our 2 children were the priority as they are the children of the marriage he entered into a relationship and took on her 3 children but they were not before the bio children. I have been awarded the 1/3^rd income rule for life or until I re marry, 100% of his pension which is not a large pension , I cease a claim for lump sum , I get to claim on his estate when he dies  he has no claim on my estate. Was awful in a way to see a cocky mouthy lying man reduced to tears or was it? A man who was threatened with I shall ask you to leave the court if you keep interrupting.

Big thanks to everyone on this site for supporting me when I felt like giving up ,  special thanks to Ian for bringing us this site this site has helped beyond belief, special thanks to Amanda and her crew 10/10 for your conduct and the way you dealt with myself and my case. special thanks to my parents who pushed and helped me all the way (love you both to pieces) and special thanks in no particular order to Kidsinbulgaria, rubytuesday, Shell shocked,Marshmellow,Singstarman,mike62 and Julian fb for listening to my moans for many many hours your all the best. I shall be sticking around with wiki you can not get rid of me that easy and now I can help others who feel lost in the process of divorce.