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Jul 14
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Had an appointment with the GP this morning to just mention a few things health wise to be met with a stark warning.
"Lose weight! and do it now!"
My weight has slowly crept up over the last few years, although I have always been heavier than I should have been.
This last year has seen my diet become really bad. Some days just existing on toast, chocolate and diet coke. My 3 eldest children now have free school dinners and the younger 2 are not big eaters so I just tend to snack throughout the day.
Some days I forget to eat and others, well it will just be one unhealthy snack after another.
I knew before I went what the GP was going to say, just never realised quite how bad it had become. She refused to prescribe the contraceptive pill saying that I would be at high risk of blood clots in my legs. Basically that I could end up dead just by her prescribing me one little tablet.
I know I can't afford to leave my children without a mum, knowing what I would be leaving them to live with. This is so not about the contraceptive pill, just my way of getting the GP to tell me enough is enough and that I need to do something about my weight NOW.
I have swollen legs and ankles which are not becoming when you want to wear shorts and short skirts in the summer. I live in my crocs because I can't even get my trainers on without a struggle.
I need to do this for me and my children now. Maybe my ex-husband was right when he called me "Bubbles" from Little Britain.
I have kidded myself that being big means larger than life, that I am cuddly and that it is not what is on the outside that matters. But big is something to hide behind, means you can pinch more than an inch (or ten) and that being happy with the way you are is not always enough.
So, not only do I have to fight my ex-husband, try to save the roof over my children's head, I now have to fight a serious weight problem and do it now!
Everyone has said, sort the divorce first, get back on an even keel and then look at tackling your weight problem. Well now I don't have that luxury.
So, my whole life needs one big reality check.
I joked about not being able to fit into a little black number at wiki london in september but jokes just act as a deflection from the truth.
So, just another thing to deal with in my post-divorce life to find the real Sarah again.
Maybe, an intake of healthy, wholesome food is just what my life needs. A new zest for life, a new outlook.
So, this week sees diet coke being cut from my diet as was told this doesn't help with fluid retention and that really diet coke may not be calorie free at all.
Am going to start slowly, this week diet coke (and chocolate if I have the will power and can cope with the withdrawal syptoms) and hope that I don't suffer to much with the headaches that I get as a result of coming off the caffeine.
So, swapping 2ltrs of diet coke a day for 2 ltrs of cold water a day, lovely!!!!!!!!!
Could use some support on this my lovely wiki friends. This is not just about the way I look anymore, it is about my health and me being here for my children.
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Daisy040
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Sarah.. well you've had the reality check, not such a bad thing really, maybe you needed this push to make you realise deep down your not happy with yourself ? i dont know.... you've alot to deal with hun, its never easy and its not going to be easy...but you know what you have to do and you will do it too.. maybe as well as the food stuff do some exercise ? go for walks, not sure how the timing thing would work as you have the children but then it would be good for them too...if not do exercise at home... maybe set yourself some goals ? wiki party being one of them ? re drinking water if you get bored if it add some lemon or lime juice and i mean the fresh stuff....buy a lemon and lime and add cut up peices, lovely and re-freshing... you will get through this sarah and you know you have all the support you need from all of us....think of it this way...its time to look after sarah...... big hugs to you honey amanda xxx |
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gareth67
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Hi Sarah, On the water front there are lots of water with taste out there and they are ok. Like Daisy says if you can get the whole family out walking or other activities (swimming, cycle rides) Look after yourself not for others but for you first, you have to feel good about yourself, and I know these times are not easy for anyone on here (i know), chocolate and beer is not a good diet but it does feel great. Good luck mate, I'm sure you don't need to lose much anyway. Gareth |
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Mneme
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hi sarah - best antidote to caffeine headache is ibuprofen but you must take it with food to avoid an upset tum - that's the best practical advice i can offer, as i find i can't function if my head hurts i don't have a car, so i walk to the shops, which means i go quite often as i can't carry much at one go, so i get my excercise that way (i'm not naturally an exerciser..). - just one or two little things to help you get started. As for food, i'm in danger of not eating properly too, so i just buy fruit i know i'll eat, and prefer vegetables anyway so i make sure i have those even if it's not every day. You deserve to win this one - good luck! |
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crazylady
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Hi sarah, I too am trying to lose my marriage weight.Its very hard to do especially with biscuits etc in when you have children.I try and munch on carrot and celery sticks. I am lucky I can go to the gym,but is there a swimming baths near you? one of the best forms of exercise.If you want a weight watcher buddy or someone to confesss your snacking sins to contact me. |
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Goodman01
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Sarah its a balance thing, I saw a bloke while ago he was some sort of neutritional life coach, and he said that there are 4 things to try and get right, I listened to him and followed his regime, it works but I am stupid so I have kept it up. Basically, its as all about sleep, exercise, hydration and balancing your food portions based on whether you are a carb or protien type person. I felt better after about a week, 2 litres of water a day, 8 hours of sleep, 45 mins of exercise, and the right balance of type/quantity of food. Thinking about it again now makes me think how easy it was and how much better I felt, so I am going to get back onto it, we can be healthy together! Good luck GM |
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lyndamac
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I have always been slim all my life, however due to the stress of the case my hormones went crazy , I needed a full abdominal hysterctomy. I was put on medication prior to the op which made me put on weight now 9 1/2 stone just made it not over weight I get checked out due to taking HRT said I would not take it ,due to weight you put on, truth is I have no ovaries so need to take it otherwise not make it till old age . Before the op I normally weighed in at 8 stone ideally.This is what stress can do to you. I used to go to the gym whilst my son was in school , take my friend Catherine who had her hip replacement done with me. I laugh now as I set stuff up for her in a body pump class we used to have a ball, in the steam room with the guys go out for lunch on vouchers then go Tesco's and pick up the boys at school 15 30 . We met outside the school gate one morning , our boys were friends.She was attractive and a few years younger than me. Her husband back then ,said she needed to get herself a lover as she was useless!!!! in bed . On my life this is what she told me he said , I can not print the rest on here. Catherine, told me she done exactly this went out got a younger model. They are divorced now he lives with his mother she bought him out ,she is living with her young man , she is very happy , having just had a lovely baby girl at 40 years old the boys are happy with their gorgeous baby sister. She was so scared back then, he hid the utility bills on here when they were splitting up , she knew nothing of surviving on benefit either. We went out for lunch just to stay out of her husbands way until the divorce I was very worried about her safety as he was 1 of those quiet types you know the type would probably do something terrible . I just do not know how she put up with him all that time, to look at him he looked like her father not her husband.We laugh now as she travelled on her own to Spain ok her sister went with her .She made decisions to by electronic major items for the home. She told me how he told her once she could not make a pancake. She is so lovely this is the thing and women like her always get a raw deal. The earlier posts are helpful, do stuff that cost nothing get a football out play football.Try to get an advantage card you can get a discount for a gym if you are on a budget , go swimming too anything that gets you kick started to getting fit. Walking helps too borrow some ones dog if you do not have one. Enjoy the children do stuff with them stay young with them . good luck with finding the new you . It takes ages to find the confidence which has been knocked out of you over the years by someone else. Best wishes Lyndamac |
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Techy
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Good luck with this Sarah. I can't really add anything constructive that hasn't already been said above. Completely agree with Mneme re the ibuprofen and also the fruit thing. You've tons of support ! Techy. |
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Donnylass
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We could start a wikiweightwatchers online!!-sounds quite catchy eh?  Good luck Sarah. From reading other peoples blogs etc, it looks like we fall into 2 camps-those who lose weight with the stress, and those who put it on. I know I have lost my 2st because I can't be bothered to eat at times, and that is equally as unhealthy, as piling the lbs on. You have a great strength of character Sarah, but it will be like the divorce journey-baby steps.  |
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scaredandupset
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It's weird Sarah, a few of us were only discussing today in chat that we could start a wiki diet thing and now I read D onnylass's comments! I for one would be glad to be an online buddy and egg each other on to lose weight. I've put on four stone since last summer, because my husband kept telling me I should find someone better and saying I must be chatted up every time I went out.I only realised it recently, but I put on the weight as a shield to protect myself from situations that could have led me to being tempted by someone other than the man I loved;just because they paid me a bit of attention.Any treat or present he gave me usually involved food and now I just seem to get off that comfort eating wagon. So..... any advice, group commitments, DIY stomach-stapling! would be welcomed.  |
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Rani4
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Hi sarah, i know we've already talked about this, and you're right you need support with this. just take it easy and slowly. the first Ib is probably the hardest to lose, and man (and/or woman) is a creature of habit, you'll soon make new habits that don't involve unhealthy food. you know your body best and you know what you need to do. we're here to support you. practical advice: cold water is good, but water at room tempreature is good too - it is filling and hydrating and apparently better for the digestive system. many people swear by a cup of hot water with lemon juice and honey first thing in the morning. i have to confess i didn't like it, but they say it is detoxing. basically, look upon water as a friend not an adversary, it has many many benefits. (finally boost your soups with water, you won't lose the taste, and you'll be full on less calories and fat content) i'll post more ideas if they come along.. good luck x x Rani |
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