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Jul 10
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Firstly I would like to say this blogging is great, I can not believe how much I change day to day.
After ten years I found out the lady I thought I knew so well was having an affair. Now I know everyone will say this but she really was not the type, I have asked her who her new fellow is and she has told me lie after lie. For example she told that he was 30, divorsed and had two kids then on Monday she said that none of this was true and she will not even tell me his real age.
Now my ex was never much of a talker she was quite shy, the way I found out that she was having an afair was that she was calling a number and was on the phone for up to four hours a day. I asked her how she had afforded to spend so much money on her phone was I was concerned that my son would be loosing out as she was wasting all her money. She had over run her minutes by £100.00. Her answer was that the new bloke was giving her the money so that she could call him. I did thought strange but up to him I suppose.
Today I have come back home and there is a bank statement for her, which I opened, I know I should not have done but.... I have looked over this statement and have seen that she has taken £500 out in one day then more the next day. Now you may not think this is too odd but she works all weekend, has not brought anything for herself or our son and was so squint this week that she could not afford to pay her mum and dad £40 rent.
This has got me thinking about her new man and why no one knows anything about him, could he be conning her? I warned her as soon as I found out about the new bloke that she should not tell him that she was going to get approx £20k from when we sell our house and split the equity. Has she taken my advise?
I am concerned but can not tell her family that I opened her bank statement. I suppose I will only find out when and if it all goes wrong.
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gareth67
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| July 10, 2008 | ||
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Hi Paul, Yes she could be getting conned but need to remember to loook after you and your son, and also her debit if you have not divorced finally yet is your debit? don't get lumbered with that as it will effect you and also any bad credit rating will go against both of you if at the same address. be careful good luck Gareth |
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Daisy040
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| July 11, 2008 | ||
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hi paul... blogging is great !!!! i love Mr Blogman....(daisy smiles at the thought of Mr Blogman - why i call him that I dont know lol) always a great way to get things off your chest...and you can write exactly what you want....so im glad you do it....and believe it or not it helps - re why you wife wont tell you about new new man...eerrr dont know...she's embarrassed ? guilty ? anyway do you really want to know about him ? wouldnt that make it harder ? i know who my ex had/is having his affair with and i hate it.....the feelings i have about it and her are horrible and i wonder if it would be easy not knowing ? you opening her bank statement yes that was wrong but then i opened my ex's mobile phone bills for the mth of feb and march as i knew something was wrong....the shock i got was unbelievable...66 txts to her and phone calls when i wasnt home that was in feb then in march 160 txts and even more tele calls.....how did it make me feel ?? like crap actually...but theres something in side of you thats desperate to find out - you have to do it.......my advice to you now, dont open any more post of her's, you dont need to know, you dont need to put yourself through the pain anymore....shes not worth it hun.... as gareth said you need to start thinking about you now...focus on the good things hun and not the bad.... take care and see you in chat...more music please !! ;-) keep smiling and blogging Daisy xx |
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