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Jun 07
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One down.....Posted by MMM in children, bad day, affairs and cheating |
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Well one Son has comleted exams so one to go then we can tell them both , stbx will leave and then onto next stage....or so I thought! After me letting "him" stay here for 5 months whilst our Sons revised (youngests first yr in sixth form and the eldest first year at Uni) he now announces he's going no where to we sell the house? Please can anyone tell me when I missed the news flash that God had died and stbx got the job!!!! I am at my wits end with him, has he not heard the news that houses are just not selling at the moment .Do I deserve this after all I've done for him letting him stay for my Boys sake , if the situation had been different I would have no way let him stay here, eat with us and behave like the cat that got the cream! Do I go into mad woman mode after the telling? I've struggled with this secret for so long and now I feel he is fooling me yet again. Does he think that our Sons will want him here when they too will now be thinking "where is he"-" is he with her and her children". What monster would do this to his Sons, I've given up guessing why he's doing it to me, I was just focusing on the telling day and then him completing his part of the bargain! Can he do this? Can I throw him out? I just don't know anymore. Sad to think that this new woman is really worth so little to him already as if this was me, splitting up my family, taking my Sons security away, the new partner would have be "out of this world" I would be dying for the day when we could be together, anywhere..nothing flash just to be together? I really feel he has lost the plot! And I'm fed up of being taken for a mug! There is no way on this planet I can do this for a moment longer than I need to, he keeps forgetting I have done this for OUR Son's, to support them and not ruin their educational year. My god how I now know that he so doesn't deserve us! The only reason no-one knows his secret is because the boys don't, but as of next weekend they will! Time will then tell what the next stage will be. ..whether he likes it all not. Sorry all for rant but this so helps me. Is it too early for a glass of red?! Oh and guess what I'm having for tea.....
Hope all ok and thank you
M
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gorgeous
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Hi MMM Not long now. Think he is moving the goalposts because.......... scared. Its nearly crunch time and he now has to face it and realises there is no going back. I would tell him straight either u go or i do and im taking the family. Id tell him that after you break the news HE has to say to them y he is forcing them out of their home and wanting to sell. If HE doesnt tell him u will and it will be told to them in straight clear facts. If he refuses to go then i suggest u carryout the threat but not lightly. Straight awayback everything and i mean everything so u have no intention of returning. I reckon he will go and move on to hers? The alternative is to be unhappy and depressed till all this is over. If you petition against him now for adultery u av more chance of making it stick whilst he is in the house. Take care x |
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MMM
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Thanks for the advice. " Her" apparently married but still with hubby and kids so I am not intending to move out so she can then move in here. Hoping that the reaction of my Boys will prick his conscience and he will go, don't care where. My boys are going to go mad, went through a bad patch last year and Son who was off to uni wanted to kill him, throw him out so I think next weekend will be the crunch? Altough he is being a git I don't think he would want to stay when we all "know"? Time will tell, I just want him gone so me and my boys can heal and recover and get on with our futures. Mx | |
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mrsnomore
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Sorry to hear this MMM. Agree with Gorgeous, he probably is scared or realised that he can't fund other woman and her kids and himself in the interim. Selfish and thinking of him him and him. I agree I think that your sons will be angry and dismayed with their father, hopefully if he has anything left about him he will be spurred into some kind of action for their good at least - does he not realise what it will be like when the boys know, and his secret is out?! ((((((MMM))))))) I so feel for you, the five months I had to live like that were hell on earth and I fully understand your frustration and anger and even desperation x x x I just kept in my head 'this time next year I'll be free of the b#*^rd' Big hugs, you will get there and keep posting xx |
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mrsnomore
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p.s. good for you too MMM that YOU have put your sons first. Hope that his exams went well and that son2 does well next week xxx They will remember this is years to come. You are strong, loving and there for them. X | |
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