Dear Blog

It's been 5 weeks since my last confession, but I just haven't had the will to blog, chat etc.

I have been on to browse, and keep up with how people are doing though.

It's got something to do with not wanting to wear out my welcome, ‘cause I'm still in the same place I was 5 weeks, 6 weeks, 7 weeks ago, and don't want to bore people with my lack of movement on what's happening.  In fact, I'm in worse place now than I was three months ago when I found everything out, and she moved out.

It still occupies my every waking hour, the what ifs, the whys and all the other crap.  Her? Well

Hi

Control is something I was accussed of, but as you may expect I don't think I was guilty of.  But I'd really like to see what people, probably mainly female, view as being controlled.  When I mention her accusation to mutual friends, some have come back with the view that it was she who came across as controlling.

I know that what one person views as controlling, another will view as normal, and I'd like to get a range of views.

Heath

P.S yes, I'm still trying to make sense of it all, I keep thinking I'm there, and

Don't get too excited girls, this isn't a man hating rant (I am one after all) It's an observation of us men between 35-45.  It seems to be about the age most men are ending up involved in divorce, damned if you like.

It struck me that we are a stage in the evolution of men that will soon die out.  We were faced with unique dilemmas, entering in to our life relationships at the time we did.  Those that have followed us have, in the main, excelled at the new rules, whilst losing the old skills.  Those that preceded us, just followed the old rules, as they and their partners knew nothing else,