...... Three weeks to be exact!   Three weeks with NO No.2 from my STBX!  (mind you, I am touching wood as I type this lol)  Previous record stood at 7 days....

Since a minor little blip of temper, spite and bile when I told him that I was goingto and then introduce girls to my BF, he has been almost 'normal'.  Hurrah! 

He has cut maintenance in half, but apart from that.... its been so so quiet. A little comment here or there, nothing to write a blog about, but it just DOESNT get to me anywhere near like it did before....  and its only taken a year.....

I actually stopped at a traffic light

In replying to a blog today it reminded me of the letters I wrote to my stbx which I never sent.  I found the emotional stages in a book and they were stated as being;

 SHOCK, ANGER, PAIN, HATRED, GRIEVING, HEALING

The letter idea was from the healing stage - a letter to your partner expressing some of the emotions you have experienced. Should be written, not to be actually sent. Imagine that everything you write is heard and understood the way you want it to be. 

ie.I feel angry because ...... I feel so angry when ...... I don't like ...... I wish ..... I feel sad because ..... I feel afraid

I have had two weeks without my DD's who have been in america with their father.  I had a week in Spain with my family and bf.  On the whole it has been hard (missing the girls, him not making it easy to contact them and still being sarcastic and snide) but I had a wonderful time away and the contact with STBX has been minimal (hooray).

He has tried to control me still, but friends and family have all been giving me a talking to about the fact that I am still influenced by my fear of his reactions to me moving on.  My parents, my family, my friends all say - stop being controlled by him and