Well,  STBX has introduced his 'special friend' to the girls, good, about time he moved on with his life.  They are happy with it and so am I - he doesnt seem to be though!

He is seemingly amazed that I have not reacted to this news, other than 'No, I dont have a problem' and 'yes I am getting divorce sorted' (as he 'told' me to last week by text - it has been held up by him controlling when HE wants it done in his words ''I dont care how or when you do it, its only a piece of paper.')

Therefore I have booked appointment for mediation (I am under no illusions that this will work as he will walk

I am really happy this week.... I cannot remember feeling this lightheaded and happy and ME for years.

My BF and girls are getting on well.

I have managed to keep my job through a load of redundancies. (still need more work though!)

I have found a real epiphany "a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality"  since reading about Verbal Abuse thanks to Sad Eyes.  I have tools to deal with an angry x and to help my girls deal with him. Was gobsmacked at the amount of what was a direct description and almost word for word of what he has said and done, but felt relieved and

...... Three weeks to be exact!   Three weeks with NO No.2 from my STBX!  (mind you, I am touching wood as I type this lol)  Previous record stood at 7 days....

Since a minor little blip of temper, spite and bile when I told him that I was goingto and then introduce girls to my BF, he has been almost 'normal'.  Hurrah! 

He has cut maintenance in half, but apart from that.... its been so so quiet. A little comment here or there, nothing to write a blog about, but it just DOESNT get to me anywhere near like it did before....  and its only taken a year.....

I actually stopped at a traffic light