A c**p evening

Came home to a big brown envelope!!! Bet I'm not the only one who has experienced that, and the cloud of ensuing doom that descends with it!!

Yep, my dear old sol, knocking his bill up a bit more.

Copies of letters from my stbxs sol.

Scumbag and I met 3 weeks ago to discuss how we could make healthy progress ( yes I am aware this is divorce we're talking about-but ever the optimist!!) and minimise the damage that the sols seemed intent on causing. Since then he has said he wanted to collect his belongings. I agreed, said to contact me with suitable times etc, and then silence!!

Todays forest of paper included demands that I contribute to his loans, payments for car and motor bike, credit card etc. Plus stating stbx was not going to pay the mortgage or ins ( bearing in mind I am still paying into the acc that pays these bills).

I ended up in floods of tears-furious as hell and feeling totally out of control once again over our situation. My daughter chose to phone at that moment!! She had arranged to meet her dad for the 1st time in 3 months tomorrow. She gave me a stern talking to, instructing me to contact my sol and wipe the floor with him, for being a waste of space. Though I really don't have the energy for that at the moment.

Even though scumbag is a lying, cheating selfish b*****d, I had honestly believed that we had reached an agreement when we met up and I was angry at myself for being taken in, but I kept saying to my daughter that we do have to remember that these are sols we are dealing with here-knowing that mine has written things that I hadn't said before. Who was to say the same didn't apply to her dad in this case? I still can't get over the fact I still try to see some good in him!!

2 hrs later, I rang daughter back. She had phoned her dad, and said how disgusted in how he is behaving. He said he was upset. He had received a copy of the letter his sol had sent to me, and was disgusted with it. He hadn't agreed to the things in it. He doesn't want 1/2 the things in the house, or for me to pay his loans etc.

30 mins ago, he texted me with his new mob no. Apologised for the delay and suggested we meet to discuss what we really want. He says he will put it in a letter so I can look at it beforehand.

Are we making progress? I hope so.