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so tomorrow is the day my ex gets married to that thing, do i wish him well not at all, hope he forgets his decree absolute hope it pours down on that beach.Am i bitter no angry ,angry at the way he has treated me and our children , angry the decree absolute was granted without my knowledge , angry we have a FH soon , angry he could forget his own children angry he plays games still dictates what sort of life the children can have as he picks and chooses when he wants to pay child support.In our whole marriage he paid for us to go on holiday once yet for her nothing is too much even down to him doing housework and cooking dinner when he gets home from work , where as i got i have just got in even though he had been in for 2 hours i had to balance a baby and a bottle in 1 hand stir the dinner with the other stop the cooking get the other child a drink answer the phone , change the babies nappy, make him a cup of tea, had to make sure the house was spotless every minute of the day, whilst he sat there.Would go out to a family club i was the nominated driver as always he bought every tom, dick and harry a drink but would'nt buy me a can of coke.Angry he has treated our children as trophies when we were married got them done once in a blue moon dusted them then put them back.Yet always made sure he took the credit for them looking smart, doing well at school, for their manners he contributed nothing, nothing except misery.Now i'm on a heavy dose of Anti Depressants and counselling to be told the effect of DV is the same as a solider who has been held in a PWC.I have to believe in Karma as i will never ever forgive him and his wickedness i was just his unpaid punchbag.
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gorgeous
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| May 21, 2008 | ||
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Angel uve got all that off your chest and hopefully once tomos is over u will feel a little better. He wont put up the facade for long. What kind of women can be happy wen with a man who treats his kids like that its beyond me. Hes probably fed her a pack of lies but liars always get found out in the end. Ive learnt this week a little to let go hope u can do the same. |
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starry_eyes
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Angel your angry, and its good you've blogged and let some of that anger out. He treated you like rubbish, good ridance. Its occasions such as him getting married that brings it all back, you think he's getting on with his life. So are you Angel, you're surviving without him, and im sure much happier now, atleast your not treading on eggshells anymore. You are doing a wonderful job raising your children, and i hope you meet a man who truely deserves you. Keep yourself busy tomorrow, do something nice, treat yourself to something, even if its something small. hugs starry |
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Rasher
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Oh Angel Not fair! Sorry for this crap in yr life. You are rebuilding though and you could have had the marriage on the beach with the pretend perfect life where you do everything right and deny you ever treated another person badly. But you would have had to walk out on yr kids. Worth the price? I dont think so - let him play it his way - youve played it yours - we reap what we sow, but it takes time to see the end result. Dont waste yrs waiting for him to get his dues it will happen - just get on with what you are building, I know who my money is on for the better outcome. Its not easy but you are doing just fine, keep going. Rasher x |
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Falk
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Its a shame this has happned to you as I know you to be genuine and nice person that deserves better. But it has happned and thats that. I am not surprised you feel anger towards him. The way he behaved was awful. But this sort of behavour is all to common. He was lord of the manor. Master of all he surveyed. You were the unpaid surf. He should have been helping you. This is an important lesson. In a way you are lucky. I know you dont feel it but you are. You managed to get from under his feet and get away and start again. Look at the positives? You have 2 great kids. He doesnt have you. In time (when cheapstuff does this again) he will want you back. And U are long gone. You are embarking on a great new life without the fear of having yr skull crushed. Also you are getting help. This help will make you a better fuller person. Ready to take the world on. Good for you. F |
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gareth67
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Hi Angel557, To be really honest I hope the sun shine for them and they both get burnt. Have a really bad honeymoon. How can he treat you and the kids like this? Just say no to the drugs, they don't help in the long run. Be good. Gareth |
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Specialdad
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Angel You are lovely person to have looked after your children the way you have. Keep believing you are a good person and always remember that there are ppl who like you. I hope you feel peace, love and warmth inside you always. Take care of yourself. SD x |
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BatteredDad
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Angel you're a sweetie more fool him. It won't las he sounds like a selfish pig and both his new wife and your kids will see this for themselves. xxx | |
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kidsinbulgaria
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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May 22nd 2008, just another day. All around the world, people are upto different things. Some are getting divorced, some are getting married, some are meeting new loved ones, babies are being born, hearts are breaking and hearts are mending. He is just another statistic now and odds are he will be getting divorced in the future again. Perhaps you should see it as a necessary step to help you move forward with your life. Life with him was clearly no good and he is now someone elses problem. Your life is for living and hopefully at some time you will met a man that will not only be an average guy but one who goes the extra mile to make you and your children happy. Until then, stay positive, keep downlaoding them hip tunes for us all, and keep your tank available for hire. Those who know you, will know what i'm on about.... |
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rainy
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Hi Angel, I am a newish member to the Wikivorce site and over the months I've noticed you are on-line most days (if not everyday) helping others with their problems. I have also noticed that everyone on this site just adores you. You are not an Angel but a Saint - to put up with that piece of s - - -. (Sorry had to say that). All I can say is that I hope the future showers you and your children with happiness because you are one special person. Rainyx |
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happy_at_last
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Angel ur story is much like mine...we were both abused by men that did not deserve us..(its took me a long time to realize this)...YOU r a very beautiful lady inside and out..and like me u deserve better..u are a bbeautiful, strong,indapendant woman and can do so much better...instead of being a victom,i look at it this way now...my life is open to so many possabilaties and so is urs...u can move on from this babe and u will it justs take time...i totally understand how u feel..i have my days just like u...but were better than this...there is better to come for us.... much love to u babe...happy.xx |
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Daisy040
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angel i understand your anger and your pain, towards him, you know I dont have children and im glad for that...you have put up with so much crap and yet you deal with everything day in day out..truly you are amazing !!! you will come out of this one day nd you will be happy...for you and your children...hun focus on whats important now and thats you !!!! without you so much would be lost your children and us !! lol... take care hun.. big hugs amanda xxx |
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Shelia
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| May 22, 2008 | ||
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Angel You are a star and he is a idiot. Anger, like any emotion does not last forever and from now on your life will get better. He is gone and good riddance! You need to concentrate on you and your kids now. If you could do so well hampered by him how much better can u do now he is gone? Best wishes Shelia |
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tricia079
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| May 23, 2008 | ||
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Angel By now he will be married. Another woman will soon become his punch bag. A leopard doesn't change its spots. You were and still are too good for him. You have been a star to many of us on wikki. you have certainly helped me when I have been down. Please try not to be bitter, it's destructive. I think it was Shelia that said the best revenge was to be happy - one day you will because you deserve to be. One thing you have, that he will never have, is my respect and the respect of many on wiki best wishes Tricia |
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